Breaking her of the phone habit

[djthiago1]

Girl i'm dating is addicted to texting, how do you handle these girls? How do i train her NOT to text?

 

[dude99]

Girl i'm dating is addicted to texting, how do you handle these girls? How to train her NOT to text all the time.

When she is texting you can do one of two things.

Serious and butt hurt:
Walk away.

Or

Playful and fun:
Grab the phone out of her hands and jam it down your pants and tell her she has to go after it.

You're never going to break her habit of using her phone. It just wont happen. But you can control how you react to it.

 

[wifehunter]

she be spinning backups!

 

[Roober]

Any woman with any semblance of a social life will text like crazy, it's just what they do...

First of all...
-don't be a texter yourself, so you won't look like a hypocrite
-keep her focused on other things
-occasionally, I make fun like put my fingers all over the keyboard, @dude99 's idea is also a great one
-She's distracted, so I will fvck with her, like poke her anus, pull her hair, rub her leg, or something completely nonsensical

When my lady gets into a text frenzy, she is very quick to apologize, and usually keeps it brief. If she is texting to the point of ignoring you or during a time when you are giving her your full attention, then you no longer give that attention. Her friends and texting can wait till she is alone or during some other time like driving or something. It is a sign of disrespect when a woman does it a lot without consideration for others (not just you) and may likely be indicative of her true nature.

I am not at all against saying something about it. Be honest and clear, but not butthurt like "oh... your ignoring me" wah wah wah.... It is often done excessively when a woman is bored. If you are more interesting than her messages and social media, she will focus on you. Additionally, there are situations where she may NEED to text and you have to understand that as well. Women crisis happens, they love the drama, so that's when you just go on your merry way till it passes.

 

[djthiago1]

When she is texting you can do one of two things.

Serious and butt hurt:
Walk away.

Or

Playful and fun:
Grab the phone out of her hands and jam it down your pants and tell her she has to go after it.

You're never going to break her habit of using her phone. It just wont happen. But you can control how you react to it.

she be spinning backups!

You guys didn't get it. She's texting ME while we're apart.

Face to face isn't a problem, i just tell them to leave the phone in the car.

 

[Billtx49]

You guys didn't get it. She's texting ME while we're apart.

Face to face isn't a problem, i just tell them to leave the phone in the car.

If it gets excessive, somewhat delayed replies obviously, but use future terms in the reply also.

That’s interesting, lets talk about that when I see you.
, etc.

 

[djthiago1]

Delayed replies obviously, but use future terms in the reply also.

That’s interesting, lets talk about that when I see you.
, etc.

Now THIS is good advice. "save it for the next date" right? Thanks.

 

[dude99]

You guys didn't get it. She's texting ME while we're apart.

Face to face isn't a problem, i just tell them to leave the phone in the car.

Easy. You answer when you want to. She will learn when you are busy she will expect to wait for your reply.

 

[El Payaso]

I talked about this same problem here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/do-all-women-become-clingy-when-they-fall-in-love.246018/

It's really annoying. They want to talk about everything no matter how minute or stupid it is. It must have been nice dating women when cellphones weren't invented and the only contact you had with them was when you saw them or the occasional letters.

 

[derby1]

and you dont tell her "your currently busy" you reply after youve finished doing your busy event or prior to it so she respects your time

 

[Billtx49]

Texting has gotten out of hand, employees don’t even realize they are at work and text away like if they were at home.

Yes. For some people modern rechnology is a highly addictive pass time …
I don’t think the personal psychological behavior changes and their long term effect on society as a whole have been fully recognized yet.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Texting has gotten out of hand, employees don’t even realize they are at work and text away like if they were at home.

My last company actually cracked down on this, specifically lower level employees. Even when it came to WiFi usage and streaming music. Some people were caught watching Netflix. Smh

OP you have to nip this in the bud from the get go. Attention wh*res that need constant validation, well it's just going to get old really fast. Stage 5 clinger/co-dependency.

Working hours well that's pretty simple, you are at work to do a job not be her entertainment. Texting is for brief communication, not story telling or chit chat crap.

 

[derby1]

always makes me laugh how everyone is hugely addicted to texting

yet not one of em takes has any brain cell between em to take it with a pinch of salt

you put one word wrong or dont quite put a lol in the right place and thats it

even the electrician texted me to see if im in to fix my heater i mean wtf is a man texting me over an important issue for

 

[Murk]

Hate when people harass you to text at work. I told my ex that I ca't text her during work, she never listened, even wanted to start arguments while I'm at work. I think 90% of our arguments originated from text messaging and her calling me "cold" or "insensitive" and most of those times I was at work.

She would even moan that I never text her while I'm out drinking, she would say "but I'm always thinking of you when I'm out drinking and I always text you." My response was that we are both different, it's not my thing, I go out, get drunk, have fun, not think about texting people. She could never understand that, did I handle it the right way?

 

[dude99]

Hate when people harass you to text at work. I told my ex that I ca't text her during work, she never listened, even wanted to start arguments while I'm at work. I think 90% of our arguments originated from text messaging and her calling me "cold" or "insensitive" and most of those times I was at work.

She would even moan that I never text her while I'm out drinking, she would say "but I'm always thinking of you when I'm out drinking and I always text you." My response was that we are both different, it's not my thing, I go out, get drunk, have fun, not think about texting people. She could never understand that, did I handle it the right way?

Best way to handle it is to not hit the call back. Dont even entertain her with an answer. You told her you are working. You wont answer when you are working. That is final. If she says your are cold and insensitive and stuff that is her testing your resolve.

I had a co worker whos girlfriend would deliberately do the same thing. She would pick fights and keep him away from his work for hours. Finally one day i told him put the bïtch in her place, shut off your phone until 5 or im writing you up. Dude was literally panicing of the idea of not answering her. I said, give me your phone which was ringing and her name was on the display. I answered.

Me "hello."
Her "who is this. This isnt Steve. Where the hell is steve?"
Me " he is working. You can talk to him after 5. Do not bother him during work hours. He is too busy with important business, and doesnt neex your shït adding to the stress of his day"
Her "you dont tell me what to do!. Put steve on the fûcking phone now.
Me 'click'

Then i told him , do not answer her texts or phone calls until 5. She will learn she cant carry on that way. 5 minutes later i caught him on the phone with her again and she was reaming him out. I grabbed the phone out of his hands and threw it out the window.

 

[Murk]

Or... she would text in working hours something like "oh I bought us tickets to [insert music event]"

me: "cool"
her: "you're so ungrateful, you're never enthusiastic when I do something nice for us"

I swear even typing that out gave me shudders. I'm well rid of the psycho.

 

[dude99]

Or... she would text in working hours something like "oh I bought us tickets to [insert music event]"

me: "cool"
her: "you're so ungrateful, you're never enthusiastic when I do something nice for us"

I swear even typing that out gave me shudders. I'm well rid of the psycho.

Best thing is to not answer at all....she is just trying to bait you. Ignore until 5.

 

[Murk]

Even when I did, even when we would argue at other times and she would mention it, I would always say look I'm in a high pressured stressful job where time is money and I can't really focus on tickets you've bought. She was adamant I should have been head over heels via text while at work every time she booked something for us. Wow you booked something, you're job allows you the freedom to trawl online in working hours looking for events and lets you "work from home". My job requires me to work. She said I undermined/belittled her job, I couldn't win, she legit would not understand me, or said she did but carried on the same behaviour and this was a recurring argument.

When I explained how busy and stressed I was at work, later down the line I mentioned a morning where I just fvcked around with the guys and she called me out in front of two of her friends saying basically "I thought you were always busy". She used that line a lot when I made my work sound any kind of fun, "I thought you never had a chance to do anything but work".

God what a fvcking manipulative psycho freak she was. This thread has helped me.

 

[dude99]

Even when I did, even when we would argue at other times and she would mention it, I would always say look I'm in a high pressured stressful job where time is money and I can't really focus on tickets you've bought. She was adamant I should have been head over heels via text while at work every time she booked something for us. Wow you booked something, you're job allows you the freedom to trawl online in working hours looking for events and lets you "work from home". My job requires me to work. She said I undermined/belittled her job, I couldn't win, she legit would not understand me, or said she did but carried on the same behaviour and this was a recurring argument.

When I explained how busy and stressed I was at work, later down the line I mentioned a morning where I just fvcked around with the guys and she called me out in front of two of her friends saying basically "I thought you were always busy". She used that line a lot when I made my work sound any kind of fun, "I thought you never had a chance to do anything but work".

God what a fvcking manipulative psycho freak she was. This thread has helped me.

Here is what you say:
"I'm in a high pressured stressful job where time is money and you obviously do not respect me or my job and that is unacceptable. Im going to say goodbye and cut ties now. I need someone in my life that is more understanding and more mature. Not a spoiled child that believes everything revolves around her. Good bye."

You will make her change or she will get dumped, and she only has herself to blame.

 

[Murk]

You’re right, I tolerated too much. I’ve learned a lot from that relationship. All the nice/sweet/caring/considerate things she did, did not make up for the BS.