"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Breadcrumbs from ex's

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Generally, how do you all interpret breadcrumbs? Obviously they come in different degrees and no two people have the same brain so it's impossible to really know what they're thinking--

But how do you all interpret breadcrumbs after months/years of not speaking? It could be about something trivial, or a well-wish,or a greeting, etc.

To wage guilt? To be the "bigger person?" To be nice? Dipping a toe in the water? To see if you're still on the hook? Prelude for future contact? An ego stroke?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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cityboy989 said:
Generally, how do you all interpret breadcrumbs? Obviously they come in different degrees and no two people have the same brain so it's impossible to really know what they're thinking--

But how do you all interpret breadcrumbs after months/years of not speaking? It could be about something trivial, or a well-wish,or a greeting, etc.

To wage guilt? To be the "bigger person?" To be nice? Dipping a toe in the water? To see if you're still on the hook? Prelude for future contact? An ego stroke?
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When you spin plates, you don't have time for bread crumbs.
 
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cityboy989 said:
Obviously they come in different degrees and no two people have the same brain so it's impossible to really know what they're thinking--
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That’s wxactly right.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cityboy989 said:
But how do you all interpret breadcrumbs after months/years of not speaking? It could be about something trivial, or a well-wish,or a greeting, etc.

To wage guilt? To be the "bigger person?" To be nice? Dipping a toe in the water? To see if you're still on the hook? Prelude for future contact? An ego stroke?
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Be concise and polite.
 
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I say give her as much attention as any other new woman. Don't compliment her, don't coddle her, don't act needy, and don't really care. At this point... YOUVE WON!!! She misses you for one reason or another. I am not much for burning bridges, so would be open to hooking up with an ex. She would need to work for it though...
 
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Don't fall for the crumbs.
She has to directly or indirectly reach out to you by phone ,text or social media (Likes don't count)
If and when she does
She should come to your place to hang out (For a meeting in Your Bedroom lol) , no taking her out for a date
She has to do all the work since she dumped you
 
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Any response to her breadcrumbs is a loss.

The best response is no response. Just stay silent. She will either break and show more than breadcrumbs or go away. Both are a win when you think about it and puts YOU in control.

Not responding is hardest, because we can't help ourselves. But if you have any self control it's the best move.

I throw chicks breadcrumbs sometimes and it's always the ones I don't give a fvck about and want to string along.

If you blocked after the breakup like you're supposed to, there can be no breadcrumbs.
 
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Depends on the timeframes and situation.

If she was a reaaal ***** or if you are negativley effected by contact then you dont reply.

If you are in a situation where you wouldn't mind talking to her then just reply and see whats up.

**** isn't black and white, you should be able to weigh it up in your head and dont worry about "losing" like an above poster put, like wtf. Being a DJ is about being authentic and sticking to your values not "winning and losing" interactions with women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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above advice is golden you will realise yourself in 2 months time.......GET MULTIPLE WOMEN ON THE GO........but dont tell her that !! it puts you in the mindset where your the MAIN MAN and you really will not care when she messages you,however you wont be rude and will reply within half a day....YOU ARE LOW PRIORITY TO HER SHE IS JUST CHECKING IN!!!!!!!!! however your above behaviour will make you HIGH PRIORITY...but becareful because as soon as you buckle at the knees to "put the relationship back together" SHE WILL **** OFF and SPIN HER PLATES....make her work MEET her then be busy for 10 days even if your crying in ya cornflakes
 
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