"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Branch Swinging Monkeys

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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One of the reasons women manage to swing branches is because many men fail on how to become TRUE DJs. I can understand one branch swinger in our lives as we are not perfect and might pick the wrong one from time to time…but more than one?

I am willing to bet that over 90% of the men that post in here are going to have a branch swinger in their lives. When I said in the past that “quality Men” are rare…I meant that. And with quality, I mean DJ quality. Many men think that DJism is about picking women. ANYONE can pick a woman, but very few can keep those women.

Do you guys believe that Mystery and company don’t have branch swingers? Of course they do. It does not take long to see through the b.s. Of course, we will have the “who cares as long as you get laid?” (the mentality of men that don’t get laid often). Fact is…I care…because getting laid is not hard. Keeping a woman in a blitz state is very hard.

You want to avoid monkeys?

1- Pick a woman that have self-respect
2- Pick a woman that matches your values.
3- Pick a woman that respects you.
4- Pick a woman that does not jeopardize that respect or does not put herself in situations in which others might disrespect you.

1, 2, and 4 are qualities you have to see in a woman. But number 3 is a quality that you must earn. How can you expect a woman to respect you if all you do is learn canned lines or “pua” techniques? How can you expect a woman to respect you if you are very dependent on other men to the point that you constantly need the advice of so called “PUAs”? How can you expect a woman to respect you if you lack originality or for that matter fail to distinguish yourself from others? That’s why I laugh when I see men in their early 20s wasting their times on “pua” crap…when all they have to do is develop themselves as men.

It is about learning the basics. Learn how to be a gentleman. Learn how to be a man that loves sex but at the same time is VERY selective. Learn how to be a man that has full self control. Learn how to be a man that can provide. Learn how to be a man that does not need a woman to care for him. Learn how to be a man that has integrity and is fair. Learn how to be a man that does NOT need to lie or pretend he is something he is not. Learn how to be a man that is original and does not rely on other men thoughts or techniques. Learn how to be a man that is clear about his expectations in a committed relationship. And NEVER compromise your values as a Man.
 

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MacAvoy said:
Ok guru, we know how you control your employees who you pay to keep around, but how do you control your plates?
Sorry, was distracted earlier. I had a fly buzzing in my ear.

Latinoman, good post.

Foremost, being a MAN OF INTEGRITY.

I define INTEGRITY as RULES which defines your CHARACTER. Naturally everyone's idea of INTEGRITY is different.

We discuss INTERNAL BOUNDARIES here alot. A MAN OF HIGH CHARACTER has STRONG INTERNAL BOUNDARIES. Naturally your PLATE should follow your sense of INTEGRITY and respect your STRONG INTERNAL BOUNDARIES.

If a plate does not respect my BOUNDARIES, I walk away. In my eyes, the relationship is over. Once respect is lost, there is no need to go further.

No matter how ridiculous my BOUNDARY may appear (ie: you are not to go to CENTRAL PARK), I EXPECT total RESPECT and COOPERATION to what I ask. No room for negotiation. No grey area either. Clearly black and white.

This is said over and over. This is key. The POWER lies in the ability to walk away. I do not tolerate the blatant disrespect of crossing my BOUNDARIES.

I DO NOT COMPROMISE MY INTEGRITY.

Back to the question. How do I CONTROL (politically incorrect, and?) my plates?

"Hey Plate, just want to go over a few things. Some say I am difficult because I ask alot of people. I am definitely not easy. No matter how silly or ridiculous this might seem, this is what I expect of you " Your Rules". "

This is the beginning. You will be tested over and over again. She wants to feel how REAL you are. ARE YOU WHAT YOU SAY YOU ARE? Are you willing to throw the whole relationship away based on her blatant disregard for your rules. Will you compromise your integrity? Will you walk away?

I am tested almost on a weekly basis in the beginning. The tests are fewer and further between with time. No matter how long or where you are in the relationship, the plate must know the consequence is losing you. Always be prepared to walk away. Protect your heart and remember only thing in life that is guaranteed is death and taxes.

BTW this is why I stress HIGH IL plates from the beginning. LOW IL plates could care less if you come or go.
 

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Yeah great post guru and Latinoman especially.

Rep points for you both when I wake up later today lol.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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