"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Brainwashing Women Over IM

PhatE1vis

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Thou shall not text, IM, e-mail frequently unless you want to be friend zoned. Call to set up a date and keep it short.

Mantras of the SoSuave community. And not bad advice in my experience.

However, SO many women do the IM/text game. And so many women want to do it all day long (literally).

This seems like a ripe opportunity to me that we may not be taking advantage of? Is there anyway to brainwash a chick over IM (kidding, you know what I mean)?

(BTW, I'm only half serious with this post)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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tsmith2334

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You're 32? I feel like IM and texting is more geared towards high schoolers and college students. It's more of a generational thing to me, I don't see my self using it in a few years (I'm 21).

When I do IM and text, I try to make it infrequent, unique, and relatively short. In other words, I only do it once- twice a month, I try to avoid the standard "hey what's up" (teasing is always fun) and I usually don't talk longer then ten minutes (there are exceptions). What nice about texts and IMs is you can save them and look back at them later if you want.

Also, I try to always be the one to leave first. If it's IM, I try to be the who signs off or goes away first. If it's texting, I usually text once, reply if she does, and pull back.
 

PhatE1vis

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Yeah, yeah, pretty standard procedure you describe there, which I typically subscribe to.

Regarding age - you'd be surprised, if you ever get into an office environment, how much IMing goes on throughout the work day. I guess girls get bored at work.
 

tsmith2334

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I guess it's the standard, but it seems to work. Atleast, it doesn't hurt you.

I can see the whole IMing at work thing now that you mentioned it. E-mailing must be popular too.

I actually made a thread about IM profiles if you want to check it out and give me feedback.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=132181
 

Create Reality

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brainwashing techniques only work on the highly suggestible, or people who are easily wooed.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I believe that IM and text messaging has its time and place.

As long as you don't use it to communicate with someone you've never met before, you'll be okay.

Me personally? I'm 21 and don't have a text messaging plan. Don't need it, don't want it.
 
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