"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Braindead

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Hey guys,

Good to see the board again! I need some answers... I’ve been here for a couple years now, not posting much. Mainly working on my own game privately in the field - finding out what works and doesn’t work. Any****... getting to the point I met this girl the other night and she asked me a question and I was like.... uhhhh. It was a small sticking point that I didn’t know how to respond to... here is how it went.

Short field report:

Finishing work last Saturday I went into town to meet a friend for a quick pint then home... Standing there chatting I noticed HB8 looking at us – she was dancing with her friend obviously wanting us to melt under her for attention – I turn my back and continue the conversation with my friend. Later I see her by herself – friend at the bar getting them drinks I imagine, I reach my hand out (at the risk of looking stupid), she takes it and I playfully yank pull her over to me.

Me: What’s your name?

Her: Anna (she is Irish)

Me: Cool, you having a good night Anna?

Her: Aye, you going upstairs? (There is a club up there)

I hadn’t planned on, I was a mess from work and in jeans and a crappy top

Me: Nah, just in for a quick drink

She nods, talks to her friend for a bit.

Me: So what do you do?

Her: I’m a model

Me: Sweet... Like a hand model or something? (thanks style)

Her: (Confused look then laughs) No....

Me: Oh, your one of them cloths models!.... so what do you model, balaclavas?

Shocked look, she laughs

Her: Nah... I’m not really on model, I just did that part-time for a bit. I’m a health care nurse.

Me: Cool. (I turn to talk with my friend for a bit as he just got me another pint! Suppose to be driving)

HB8 turns to talk with us, her fat friend smiling at mine.

Her: You two going upstairs then?

I took that for an IOI but still said no, my friend convinced me otherwise and we agreed to meet them up there once we finished our drinks.

Upstairs:

We walk over to the bar, get a drink. She keeps her back to me.... I’m like, wtf... We talk with her ugly friend for a while then HB8 joins us – I walk up beside her ask her to give us a kiss! She finishes drinking them we French kiss for a bit. WOOOO!!!

My friend goes dancing with her friend and we go watch and make fun at there crap dancing for a laugh then she askes....

Her: So... why did you pick me?

I was like..... erm, I just blanked... I didn’t want to complement her just yet by saying how ****ing hot she was or that I wanted to **** her... so I just came up with some crap about how I find the irish accent attractive, which I don’t really. I just wanted to stick my **** in her. Lol.

What do you say to something like that?
Thanks in advance

Pilot
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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d9930380

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I would have just said:

"Because you're gorgeous and I'm superficial, we're perfect for each other" with a smile.

I know guys believe that complimenting a girl on her looks especially if she IS good looking isn't the right way to go but I think that's bollocks, you can go over the top and sound like that's all you have to say to her and that can get repetive and boring however I think girls value honesty so in this case i can't see the harm plus she'll obviously see it as a joke.
 
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