"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Brain Shutdown

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Today I was trying to have a conversation with a girl. After a few exchanges, I sensed her low interest, I got a little nervous then my brain unexpectedly shutdown and I didn't what to say at all. This has happened to me a couple times. Has this happened to you? How do you overcome that?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I used to have a bad problem with this. I didn't have the confidence to hold a conversation with a stranger (man or woman) without maintaining eye contact AND keeping the conversation flowing smoothly. I made big strides after I used conscious effort to make eye contact with people I spoke to, regardless of whom. Friends, family, co-workers, chick behind the counter at Burger King, dude bagging my groceries at Costco, etc. Once you get comfortable with eye contact, holding conversation is easy.

Couple other things that might help: Take a communication class at your local community college. Those help with conversational skills a LOT. Improv comedy classes are helpful too. I've taken both and they've been amazing for me. I'm a chatterbox IRL and can pretty much converse with anyone, all walks of life, HB7+s included.
 
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Keep the eye contact - does wonders for establishing connection. Also - some days/night you just don't have it. Happends to everyone. Hang up Don Juan's mink coat and call it a night. Recharge the batteries and wake up with your pimp hand strong as ever.
 
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You don't have to respond to everything someone says, nor do you have to respond straight away. Give yourself a few seconds to take stock of the situation. If you're having trouble with anxiety, take a few deep breaths.
 
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