Brain Shutdown

[LeonSK]

Today I was trying to have a conversation with a girl. After a few exchanges, I sensed her low interest, I got a little nervous then my brain unexpectedly shutdown and I didn't what to say at all. This has happened to me a couple times. Has this happened to you? How do you overcome that?

 

[j.619]

I used to have a bad problem with this. I didn't have the confidence to hold a conversation with a stranger (man or woman) without maintaining eye contact AND keeping the conversation flowing smoothly. I made big strides after I used conscious effort to make eye contact with people I spoke to, regardless of whom. Friends, family, co-workers, chick behind the counter at Burger King, dude bagging my groceries at Costco, etc. Once you get comfortable with eye contact, holding conversation is easy.

Couple other things that might help: Take a communication class at your local community college. Those help with conversational skills a LOT. Improv comedy classes are helpful too. I've taken both and they've been amazing for me. I'm a chatterbox IRL and can pretty much converse with anyone, all walks of life, HB7+s included.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Keep the eye contact - does wonders for establishing connection. Also - some days/night you just don't have it. Happends to everyone. Hang up Don Juan's mink coat and call it a night. Recharge the batteries and wake up with your pimp hand strong as ever.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

You don't have to respond to everything someone says, nor do you have to respond straight away. Give yourself a few seconds to take stock of the situation. If you're having trouble with anxiety, take a few deep breaths.