I don't know about you guy, but I can't think when I try to approach the girl that I like. When I try to approach, my brain just stop working, and it's like my mind is not attached to my body anymore. During that moment I don't feel anything.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Brain dead
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
abcd_z
Senior Don Juan
*blink* *blink*
O...kay...
Right, see, that doesn't really tell us anything. Do you actually make a physical effort? Do you get right up to her before realizing you have nothing to say? Do you panic, and not even move? Is it even a bad thing that your mind goes blank when approaching women? I'm willing to bet it is, since if you were effectively approaching them and talking to them, you wouldn't be posting here.
My personal advice is to create (or find online) a canned opener. Then go out and field-test it extensively. That way, you will have used the opener enough times to be able to use it even when your mind goes blank. Natural game is good, but there's no excuse for not having a fall-back plan.
O...kay...
Right, see, that doesn't really tell us anything. Do you actually make a physical effort? Do you get right up to her before realizing you have nothing to say? Do you panic, and not even move? Is it even a bad thing that your mind goes blank when approaching women? I'm willing to bet it is, since if you were effectively approaching them and talking to them, you wouldn't be posting here.
My personal advice is to create (or find online) a canned opener. Then go out and field-test it extensively. That way, you will have used the opener enough times to be able to use it even when your mind goes blank. Natural game is good, but there's no excuse for not having a fall-back plan.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
Try approaching without a purpose...the less you try to do the easier it is...
or
treat them like a school kid...a little brat....or a younger sibling.....that should take some of the pressure off...
oh and...
Try to not get caught up with what's inside your head at the time....trying to remeber what to say, thinking about what your body language is saying and all that...just let it go and talk...
:rockon:
or
treat them like a school kid...a little brat....or a younger sibling.....that should take some of the pressure off...
oh and...
Try to not get caught up with what's inside your head at the time....trying to remeber what to say, thinking about what your body language is saying and all that...just let it go and talk...
:rockon:
This is actually my third approaches. The First I did okay, except I didn't ask for the phone number on the first attempt. The second attempt was with the same person, and she said she had a bf. Today was my third attempt on a different girl. I didn't really approach her. It was more like 20 feet away, and I couldn't feel anything. I can't think of anything to do. El Monoloc, you said i should have a purpose etc, but my brain is dead during that time.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
No No No
No purpose...other than finding out who she is....simple..
Take all the anxiety and "boy I'd like to hit that" out of your head
Walk up ...say hi my name is......what's your's........
or
Hi, how are you today...blabla bla...whats your name......etc.....
its really very easy....
and what do you mean you didn't feel anything? How could you from 20 feet away.....lol
No purpose...other than finding out who she is....simple..
Take all the anxiety and "boy I'd like to hit that" out of your head
Walk up ...say hi my name is......what's your's........
or
Hi, how are you today...blabla bla...whats your name......etc.....
its really very easy....
and what do you mean you didn't feel anything? How could you from 20 feet away.....lol
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
it's just like a car salesman, who makes well over 200k a year, told me.. the best way to sell a car, is to try not to sell a car... next thing you know, the customer has left the car lot with a new car paying 2 grand over the sticker price.
The best way to get to a woman is to not come off as trying to get at her.
The best way to get to a woman is to not come off as trying to get at her.