I don't know about you guy, but I can't think when I try to approach the girl that I like. When I try to approach, my brain just stop working, and it's like my mind is not attached to my body anymore. During that moment I don't feel anything.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Brain dead
- Thread starter Nox
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
abcd_z
Senior Don Juan
*blink* *blink*
O...kay...
Right, see, that doesn't really tell us anything. Do you actually make a physical effort? Do you get right up to her before realizing you have nothing to say? Do you panic, and not even move? Is it even a bad thing that your mind goes blank when approaching women? I'm willing to bet it is, since if you were effectively approaching them and talking to them, you wouldn't be posting here.
My personal advice is to create (or find online) a canned opener. Then go out and field-test it extensively. That way, you will have used the opener enough times to be able to use it even when your mind goes blank. Natural game is good, but there's no excuse for not having a fall-back plan.
O...kay...
Right, see, that doesn't really tell us anything. Do you actually make a physical effort? Do you get right up to her before realizing you have nothing to say? Do you panic, and not even move? Is it even a bad thing that your mind goes blank when approaching women? I'm willing to bet it is, since if you were effectively approaching them and talking to them, you wouldn't be posting here.
My personal advice is to create (or find online) a canned opener. Then go out and field-test it extensively. That way, you will have used the opener enough times to be able to use it even when your mind goes blank. Natural game is good, but there's no excuse for not having a fall-back plan.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
Try approaching without a purpose...the less you try to do the easier it is...
or
treat them like a school kid...a little brat....or a younger sibling.....that should take some of the pressure off...
oh and...
Try to not get caught up with what's inside your head at the time....trying to remeber what to say, thinking about what your body language is saying and all that...just let it go and talk...
:rockon:
or
treat them like a school kid...a little brat....or a younger sibling.....that should take some of the pressure off...
oh and...
Try to not get caught up with what's inside your head at the time....trying to remeber what to say, thinking about what your body language is saying and all that...just let it go and talk...
:rockon:
This is actually my third approaches. The First I did okay, except I didn't ask for the phone number on the first attempt. The second attempt was with the same person, and she said she had a bf. Today was my third attempt on a different girl. I didn't really approach her. It was more like 20 feet away, and I couldn't feel anything. I can't think of anything to do. El Monoloc, you said i should have a purpose etc, but my brain is dead during that time.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
No No No
No purpose...other than finding out who she is....simple..
Take all the anxiety and "boy I'd like to hit that" out of your head
Walk up ...say hi my name is......what's your's........
or
Hi, how are you today...blabla bla...whats your name......etc.....
its really very easy....
and what do you mean you didn't feel anything? How could you from 20 feet away.....lol
No purpose...other than finding out who she is....simple..
Take all the anxiety and "boy I'd like to hit that" out of your head
Walk up ...say hi my name is......what's your's........
or
Hi, how are you today...blabla bla...whats your name......etc.....
its really very easy....
and what do you mean you didn't feel anything? How could you from 20 feet away.....lol
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
it's just like a car salesman, who makes well over 200k a year, told me.. the best way to sell a car, is to try not to sell a car... next thing you know, the customer has left the car lot with a new car paying 2 grand over the sticker price.
The best way to get to a woman is to not come off as trying to get at her.
The best way to get to a woman is to not come off as trying to get at her.