I don't know about you guy, but I can't think when I try to approach the girl that I like. When I try to approach, my brain just stop working, and it's like my mind is not attached to my body anymore. During that moment I don't feel anything.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Brain dead
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
abcd_z
Senior Don Juan
*blink* *blink*
O...kay...
Right, see, that doesn't really tell us anything. Do you actually make a physical effort? Do you get right up to her before realizing you have nothing to say? Do you panic, and not even move? Is it even a bad thing that your mind goes blank when approaching women? I'm willing to bet it is, since if you were effectively approaching them and talking to them, you wouldn't be posting here.
My personal advice is to create (or find online) a canned opener. Then go out and field-test it extensively. That way, you will have used the opener enough times to be able to use it even when your mind goes blank. Natural game is good, but there's no excuse for not having a fall-back plan.
O...kay...
Right, see, that doesn't really tell us anything. Do you actually make a physical effort? Do you get right up to her before realizing you have nothing to say? Do you panic, and not even move? Is it even a bad thing that your mind goes blank when approaching women? I'm willing to bet it is, since if you were effectively approaching them and talking to them, you wouldn't be posting here.
My personal advice is to create (or find online) a canned opener. Then go out and field-test it extensively. That way, you will have used the opener enough times to be able to use it even when your mind goes blank. Natural game is good, but there's no excuse for not having a fall-back plan.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
Try approaching without a purpose...the less you try to do the easier it is...
or
treat them like a school kid...a little brat....or a younger sibling.....that should take some of the pressure off...
oh and...
Try to not get caught up with what's inside your head at the time....trying to remeber what to say, thinking about what your body language is saying and all that...just let it go and talk...
:rockon:
or
treat them like a school kid...a little brat....or a younger sibling.....that should take some of the pressure off...
oh and...
Try to not get caught up with what's inside your head at the time....trying to remeber what to say, thinking about what your body language is saying and all that...just let it go and talk...
:rockon:
This is actually my third approaches. The First I did okay, except I didn't ask for the phone number on the first attempt. The second attempt was with the same person, and she said she had a bf. Today was my third attempt on a different girl. I didn't really approach her. It was more like 20 feet away, and I couldn't feel anything. I can't think of anything to do. El Monoloc, you said i should have a purpose etc, but my brain is dead during that time.
El MonoLoco
Master Don Juan
No No No
No purpose...other than finding out who she is....simple..
Take all the anxiety and "boy I'd like to hit that" out of your head
Walk up ...say hi my name is......what's your's........
or
Hi, how are you today...blabla bla...whats your name......etc.....
its really very easy....
and what do you mean you didn't feel anything? How could you from 20 feet away.....lol
No purpose...other than finding out who she is....simple..
Take all the anxiety and "boy I'd like to hit that" out of your head
Walk up ...say hi my name is......what's your's........
or
Hi, how are you today...blabla bla...whats your name......etc.....
its really very easy....
and what do you mean you didn't feel anything? How could you from 20 feet away.....lol
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
it's just like a car salesman, who makes well over 200k a year, told me.. the best way to sell a car, is to try not to sell a car... next thing you know, the customer has left the car lot with a new car paying 2 grand over the sticker price.
The best way to get to a woman is to not come off as trying to get at her.
The best way to get to a woman is to not come off as trying to get at her.