spaceman2001
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I always hear people say this. How so? His jaw is very square and and he's had a pretty muscular body over the years. So where is this pretty boy stuff coming from?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
:nervous: :nervous: :nervous:organizedconfusion said:he's hot!!
Cruise said:Why does it seem my homophobia's starting to kick in?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
lol I agree.Rollo Tomassi said:Brad Pitt is an AFC. All you have to do to verify this is see how he tries to identify with Angelina Jolie. As soon as they hook up, he adopts her adopted kids and 'suddeny' becomes the foremost proponent of childrens wellfare in Thailand. He knocks her up, but by then all of the AFC in him is on the table and a woman like Angelina needs a man who can be a man and pass her sh!t tests. She reads him as an AFC and she's off to the next guy to see if he's man enough to smack her on the ass. Classic AFC scenario.
mrRuckus said:Because you're one of those people who can't have a normal discussion without pointing out everything that could remotely be considered gay for who knows what fcuked up personal reason.