BPD's ain't really that bad

[Obsidian]

If a girl is clingy early on, is that necessarily BPD?

 

[Infern0]

If a girl is clingy early on, is that necessarily BPD?

Nah its but one sign of many.

It's a clear sign of low self esteem but it could end there. There's a lot more signs of bpd.

 

[El Payaso]

If a girl is clingy early on, is that necessarily BPD?

It's one sign but you need other signs to fully point her as BPD.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

If you are going to mess with her, I'd minimize my interactions, even go days without speaking at times. Make someone else your primary focus.

^^^

I SO agree with this. OP you have posted some good stuff in the past and I dont quite believe an earlier post that you are a 'hoovered beta.' HOWEVER if you get oneitis even a fraction - bolt out of there. Yes I know you know. The sex with these sociopaths is incredible, but I like being alive inside, not dead...

 

[Infern0]

^^^

I SO agree with this. OP you have posted some good stuff in the past and I dont quite believe an earlier post that you are a 'hoovered beta.' HOWEVER if you get oneitis even a fraction - bolt out of there. Yes I know you know. The sex with these sociopaths is incredible, but I like being alive inside, not dead...

Aye, as I say I'm well aware of the risks. I belive these girls are "managable" as long as you have a good mindset and just enjoy the sex. A lot of people just can't get over the playing field when it comes to them. I'm taking a different approach, nothing to lose Imo.

I'll be rationing her though, tbh that's probably where it'll fall over as she'll soon get demanding of my time and when she realizes that she ain't top priority she'll go find a beta boy to be her therapist.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Aye, as I say I'm well aware of the risks. I belive these girls are "managable" as long as you have a good mindset and just enjoy the sex. A lot of people just can't get over the playing field when it comes to them. I'm taking a different approach, nothing to lose Imo.

I'll be rationing her though, tbh that's probably where it'll fall over as she'll soon get demanding of my time and when she realizes that she ain't top priority she'll go find a beta boy to be her therapist.

And thats exactly what Ive found in the past. Its quite a tricky call with BPD, doing some NC, VS IL from her. Still all I can say here is - go bang the *****...

 

[GS750]

Aye, as I say I'm well aware of the risks. I belive these girls are "managable" as long as you have a good mindset and just enjoy the sex. A lot of people just can't get over the playing field when it comes to them. I'm taking a different approach, nothing to lose Imo.

I'll be rationing her though, tbh that's probably where it'll fall over as she'll soon get demanding of my time and when she realizes that she ain't top priority she'll go find a beta boy to be her therapist.

That's what they generally do. If she senses a drop in interest on your part, or feels like you're not paying enough attention to her, she'll hook up with another dude (probably an ex) who will. Remember these creatures HATE being alone. They need constant attention. So best to stay detached. That way if she tells you there's someone else, which she won't do until she's got him locked down, you won't be surprised or even care. Bang away but stay detached bro. Let her hoover you and get some sex out of it if that's what you're after.

 

[El Payaso]

When she drops your ass for another dude who gives her commitment, you will start to feel the withdrawal symptoms of an addict.

That's what they all say. They are "manageable". You're just rationalizing your poor choice to yourself.

Nothing we say will change your mind so you'll just find out the hard way.

 

[mikey2012]

Cvnt

 

[salinechow]

Repeated from another thread

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2243926#post2243926

And at the risk of repeating myself Ill shout a little bit too. In bold.

"This is frighteningly accurate.

They build you up. Take up your interests. Do anything you ask and modify behavior, schedule, and anything else it takes to cling to you. Velcroing you to them as well. They are masters at making the dopimine in your brain run strong and deep. Then....

Once they know you are committed, they begin to change the tides of fortune. Slowly making demands and flying off the handle if you do not comply. Also, sometimes the demands are internal and you don't know they even exist. Things become your fault you have nothing to do with. Past traumas begin to be taken out on you. Confusion and heartache replace what once was joy. The sheep skin comes off and the wolf comes out.

Youll begin to fix and chase. Once in a while she will relent. Apologizing and behaving just enough to give you a drink in the desert. Keep you on the treadmill rewarding you with amazing sex. Then, because you took the "favor" now you owe her triple, with compounding interest. If you cant pay, you WILL pay in blood and tears.

The blow ups get bigger and crazier. The insults get harsher and the sarcasm deeper. Then, she will shut down completely. Now the chase is really on. Now you dont know what is happening at all. It was bad when she would get mad at you but her being completely indifferent to you meeting her every need like she trained you to do is even worse. You beg for her to communicate, but she says everything is fine. You pick fights now yourself, just to feel anything resembling the past and how it all started.

Then... you finally give up. You look behind you and take stock of all you have lost. You break apart and mourn. Then...here she comes again.

Just like old times. Sweet, begging, loving, saying and acting out all the right things. You feel your absence has finally gotten through to her. (By the way she slept with 2 other guys in the last 6 weeks, that part of why she was indifferent)

You go back. Everything is amazing. You tell everyone you know she has changed and she is the one for you. The dope flows again.

And then...it all starts AGAIN. The same cycle. Yet this time you are even more committed but also more exhausted then you have ever been. You have no frame at all left.

And then...It all repeats....AGAIN.

It is hell on earth.

IT. IS. TORTURE.

Does that help clear things up?

You have a crystal ball now my friend. You are welcome."


Why do I have a mental picture of your unknown lifeless head with xx for eyes, mounted on her wall over a pool table, like some unfortunate buck.

 

[Infern0]

Gents. If you aren't going after the big game, why be in the hunt.

I'll keep you up to date but seriously stop panicking.

There's no way this *** dumpster is "the one" but she's a damn good **** and I've plated her up.

I don't care who else she ****s, I'm going to wrap it up. She's a damn good lay and until I meet someone I'm going to be exclusive with I'm going to enjoy her skillset. She can have a couple of beta boys to be her therapists/manservents. I'm just going to **** her and have fun with her.

She ain't going to brainwash me or infect me with some virus. She's just a plate.

Is that all good?

 

[Infern0]

Well, time will tell if it is all good.

One monthg ago she had you tied up in knots and here posting over and over how she fcked you up. I doubt her manipulation skills have diminished in a month and I am pretty sure your skills in handling the manipulation haven't advanced enough in a month to protect you/let you handle this.

The question I have is why would you even try?

Did you not read 5 String's thread.? The guy Was MARRIED to one - a diagnosed one who was being medicated for it - he was very aware, and more skilled at dealing with these types than probably anyone else here - NOW - he barely escaped with his life, violence and police were involved......................................why would you do it?


Why not just date other women?

Well he married one so he can't have been that smart can he and no offense to him we all make mistakes.

As I say, it's great sex, I don't know what's wrong with enjoying great sex with a girl who OK she's a basket case but she's fun.

If people want to doubt my ability to handle this, fair enough but to put it in simple terms :

She's a **** buddy
I'm NEVER going to go past that with her
If she becomes a pain in the ass I'll go NC
WHEN I secure a better source of sex I'll go NC

I don't really see how it can go wrong unless I deviate from that plan.

If it does it'll be my own fault and I'll man up and take the consiquenses

 

[:-)]

She ain't going to brainwash me or infect me with some virus.

?

Sounds like she already has. The virus of denial and wishful thinking.

 

[soulforge]

Gents. If you aren't going after the big game, why be in the hunt.

I'll keep you up to date but seriously stop panicking.

There's no way this *** dumpster is "the one" but she's a damn good **** and I've plated her up.

I don't care who else she ****s, I'm going to wrap it up. She's a damn good lay and until I meet someone I'm going to be exclusive with I'm going to enjoy her skillset. She can have a couple of beta boys to be her therapists/manservents. I'm just going to **** her and have fun with her.

She ain't going to brainwash me or infect me with some virus. She's just a plate.

Is that all good?

Two years ago.. i had a very similar mindset as you... i was with a very toxic woman.. wether she was BDP I do not know... she defo fitted well into the cluster b category..

Had atleast 7 breakups.. each and everytime after some time apart, i felt like i was ready to handle her better.. i could just use her for sex etc.. but these crazy *****ez have a way of infecting you again..

Seriously i was just like you, addicted to that great sex.. she would hoover me back in, again and again..


She would hunt me down, declaring how much she has changed and how much she loves me, and would do anything and everything for me..

As soon as i gave her some commitment.. her dark nature would creep back in.. things went from bad to worse... she once smashed up my apartment, caused me hundreds in damage..

i escaped with my life only two years ago.. she tried for nearly a year to hoover me back... i can truly say i am over her now!

She is with some dude, but does bother me in the slightest..

i was just like you.. was chasing that crazy slutty sex..

All i can say bro, is just be very careful with this one

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Geez Rep this man - SO true

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=2243926#post2243926

And at the risk of repeating myself Ill shout a little bit too. In bold.

"This is frighteningly accurate.

They build you up. Take up your interests. Do anything you ask and modify behavior, schedule, and anything else it takes to cling to you. Velcroing you to them as well. They are masters at making the dopimine in your brain run strong and deep. Then....

Once they know you are committed, they begin to change the tides of fortune. Slowly making demands and flying off the handle if you do not comply. Also, sometimes the demands are internal and you don't know they even exist. Things become your fault you have nothing to do with. Past traumas begin to be taken out on you. Confusion and heartache replace what once was joy. The sheep skin comes off and the wolf comes out.

Youll begin to fix and chase. Once in a while she will relent. Apologizing and behaving just enough to give you a drink in the desert. Keep you on the treadmill rewarding you with amazing sex. Then, because you took the "favor" now you owe her triple, with compounding interest. If you cant pay, you WILL pay in blood and tears.

The blow ups get bigger and crazier. The insults get harsher and the sarcasm deeper. Then, she will shut down completely. Now the chase is really on. Now you dont know what is happening at all. It was bad when she would get mad at you but her being completely indifferent to you meeting her every need like she trained you to do is even worse. You beg for her to communicate, but she says everything is fine. You pick fights now yourself, just to feel anything resembling the past and how it all started.

Then... you finally give up. You look behind you and take stock of all you have lost. You break apart and mourn. Then...here she comes again.

Just like old times. Sweet, begging, loving, saying and acting out all the right things. You feel your absence has finally gotten through to her. (By the way she slept with 2 other guys in the last 6 weeks, that part of why she was indifferent)

You go back. Everything is amazing. You tell everyone you know she has changed and she is the one for you. The dope flows again.

And then...it all starts AGAIN. The same cycle. Yet this time you are even more committed but also more exhausted then you have ever been. You have no frame at all left.

And then...It all repeats....AGAIN.

It is hell on earth.

IT. IS. TORTURE.

Does that help clear things up?

You have a crystal ball now my friend. You are welcome."


Why do I have a mental picture of your unknown lifeless head with xx for eyes, mounted on her wall over a pool table, like some unfortunate buck.

^^^

One of the best posts on BPD/Cluster B/Manipulative females on this forum. So damn true. Reading this gave me bad goosebumps. Thanks for the reminder OP...

 

[Kailex]

Every single time I've read one of these "I can deal with her BPD-ness" threads, it never ended well.

Heck, the Official BPD thread should be enough of a cautionary tale.

Even I went through this a few years ago and I had to undergo "dating detox" to get myself rid of that harpy.

Worst part is you believe you are in the driver's seat. You never really are.

 

[Lozboss]

Every single time I've read one of these "I can deal with her BPD-ness" threads, it never ended well.

Heck, the Official BPD thread should be enough of a cautionary tale.

Even I went through this a few years ago and I had to undergo "dating detox" to get myself rid of that harpy.

Worst part is you believe you are in the driver's seat. You never really are.

Anyone got a link to the BPD diagnosis thread?

 

[BrainDamage92]

http://i.imgur.com/8dZZTx6.gif

my reaction when I saw the title

 

[GS750]

Anyone got a link to the BPD diagnosis thread?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=164551