"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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bpd vs bipolar

tesla8520

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This is simply a curiosity. I don't expect many people to be interested.

That said, there's been a lot of discussion about borderline disorder, but very little about bipolar disorder.

Bipolar disorder is a mood disorder, which involves what are called mood "episodes." An episode is a period of time, at least several days but usually 1-2 weeks or more, in which there are significant and persistent changes in overall mood compared to a normal, well-functioning baseline. A depressive episode is the one most familiar to most people, because it essentially has all the characteristics of major depressive disorder (in fact, MDD is also known as "unipolar depression," as opposed to bipolar). The other pole is what's called a manic episode, during which the person with the disorder experiences at least several days of very elevated or expansive mood, though often very unstable; They also typically have increased general activity, initiate unrealistic plans, and act very impulsively. They may also be paranoid and develop severe delusions, and typically feel as if their need for sleep has decreased. Sometimes, mania feels GREAT for sufferers while they're in a manic state, and they can put themselves in real danger due to the resulting delusions and impulsivity.

Borderline personality disorder is somewhat less understood, and while the DSM has a fairly stable description, there's a bit more criticism and some alternative ideas. But, as we currently understand it, BPD is a personality disorder: while we believe bipolar disorder is caused by problems with brain function that lead to the emergence of mood episodes, BPD is more related to habits, relationships, and cognition. To simplify, we think of bipolar disorder as more related to the "brain" and borderline is more related to the "mind." Characteristics of BPD include a lack of a strong sense of self, extreme fear of abandonment (and concomitant extreme reactions to real or perceived abandonment), unstable emotional reactions, and impulsivity. People with BPD tend to rapidly alternate between emotional extremes, lacking a stable middle ground between despair and euphoria, and often seem to change personality on a whim. Unlike the mood episodes of bipolar disorder, which typically last at least several days, mood swings in BPD can be extremely rapid, with sufferers going from euphoria to despair and back again, sometimes in the space of a single conversation.

If you've read the difference, now you have a general understanding of what we're talking about.

So, how do we distinguish between a woman and the other?
Have you ever had relationships with women who have had bipolar disorder and women who have had BPD, and how did they differ?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BaronOfHair

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@tesla8520 "So, how do we distinguish between a woman and the other?"

Unless we're shrinks working a client, we DON'T!!! Instead, we inquire as to whether or not a gal brings more discord than peace into our lives, then act accordingly
 

Prepostereax

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What if she has both, lol

"Oh, a snake!

I wonder if it's an adder or a viper?
Maybe it's a rattler or a cobra?
Shall we fk around and find out?
"
 

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No need to over analyze this stuff, just listen to Ava Max's advice on the subject matter, with the key overall point in bold:

"'Grab a cop gun' kinda crazy,
she's poison but tasty
Yeah, people say,
'Run, don't walk away'

'Cause she's sweet but a psycho,
a little bit psycho
At night, she's screamin',
"I'm-ma-ma-ma out my mind"

See, someone said, 'Don't drink her potions
She'll kiss your neck with no emotion
When she's mean, you know you love it
'Cause she tastes so sweet, don't sugarcoat it'

No, no, you'll play along
Let her lead you on
You'll be saying, 'No (no, no, no), no (no)'
Then saying, "Yes, yes, yes"
'Cause she messin' with your head (hey!)"
 

sevbucmash

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When you meet women, and not just theorize about them on forums. When your dating is not just online swipes and daily masturbation. When you go out, meet women, have sex. When you interact with many women, your brain naturally recognizes what is normal. You inadvertently become a psychologist, and anything out of ordinary stands out and scream at you. So you don't need to worry about this subject, instead focus on acquiring that experience with women.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Female bipolars can usually function in society. BPDs are usually hot, tattooed, unemployed, chain smoking, drug addict...and I need to stop talking about my ex.
 
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