"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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bpd vs bipolar

tesla8520

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This is simply a curiosity. I don't expect many people to be interested.

That said, there's been a lot of discussion about borderline disorder, but very little about bipolar disorder.

Bipolar disorder is a mood disorder, which involves what are called mood "episodes." An episode is a period of time, at least several days but usually 1-2 weeks or more, in which there are significant and persistent changes in overall mood compared to a normal, well-functioning baseline. A depressive episode is the one most familiar to most people, because it essentially has all the characteristics of major depressive disorder (in fact, MDD is also known as "unipolar depression," as opposed to bipolar). The other pole is what's called a manic episode, during which the person with the disorder experiences at least several days of very elevated or expansive mood, though often very unstable; They also typically have increased general activity, initiate unrealistic plans, and act very impulsively. They may also be paranoid and develop severe delusions, and typically feel as if their need for sleep has decreased. Sometimes, mania feels GREAT for sufferers while they're in a manic state, and they can put themselves in real danger due to the resulting delusions and impulsivity.

Borderline personality disorder is somewhat less understood, and while the DSM has a fairly stable description, there's a bit more criticism and some alternative ideas. But, as we currently understand it, BPD is a personality disorder: while we believe bipolar disorder is caused by problems with brain function that lead to the emergence of mood episodes, BPD is more related to habits, relationships, and cognition. To simplify, we think of bipolar disorder as more related to the "brain" and borderline is more related to the "mind." Characteristics of BPD include a lack of a strong sense of self, extreme fear of abandonment (and concomitant extreme reactions to real or perceived abandonment), unstable emotional reactions, and impulsivity. People with BPD tend to rapidly alternate between emotional extremes, lacking a stable middle ground between despair and euphoria, and often seem to change personality on a whim. Unlike the mood episodes of bipolar disorder, which typically last at least several days, mood swings in BPD can be extremely rapid, with sufferers going from euphoria to despair and back again, sometimes in the space of a single conversation.

If you've read the difference, now you have a general understanding of what we're talking about.

So, how do we distinguish between a woman and the other?
Have you ever had relationships with women who have had bipolar disorder and women who have had BPD, and how did they differ?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BaronOfHair

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@tesla8520 "So, how do we distinguish between a woman and the other?"

Unless we're shrinks working a client, we DON'T!!! Instead, we inquire as to whether or not a gal brings more discord than peace into our lives, then act accordingly
 

Prepostereax

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What if she has both, lol

"Oh, a snake!

I wonder if it's an adder or a viper?
Maybe it's a rattler or a cobra?
Shall we fk around and find out?
"
 

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No need to over analyze this stuff, just listen to Ava Max's advice on the subject matter, with the key overall point in bold:

"'Grab a cop gun' kinda crazy,
she's poison but tasty
Yeah, people say,
'Run, don't walk away'

'Cause she's sweet but a psycho,
a little bit psycho
At night, she's screamin',
"I'm-ma-ma-ma out my mind"

See, someone said, 'Don't drink her potions
She'll kiss your neck with no emotion
When she's mean, you know you love it
'Cause she tastes so sweet, don't sugarcoat it'

No, no, you'll play along
Let her lead you on
You'll be saying, 'No (no, no, no), no (no)'
Then saying, "Yes, yes, yes"
'Cause she messin' with your head (hey!)"
 

sevbucmash

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When you meet women, and not just theorize about them on forums. When your dating is not just online swipes and daily masturbation. When you go out, meet women, have sex. When you interact with many women, your brain naturally recognizes what is normal. You inadvertently become a psychologist, and anything out of ordinary stands out and scream at you. So you don't need to worry about this subject, instead focus on acquiring that experience with women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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tesla8520

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Female bipolars can usually function in society. BPDs are usually hot, tattooed, unemployed, chain smoking, drug addict...and I need to stop talking about my ex.
Do female bipolar have abandonment issues too?
 
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