"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Scars

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How does this song make you feel SS?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8pbW7bRD6qc&feature=player_detailpage

A girl posted this on my facebook. No, she's not an ex, she isn't even a girl I've fvcked, although she did try pretty hard while I was single. However, I've always had a strong suspicion of her BPDness. She even seems crazier than my ex. I guess the only reason I'm still friends with her is for entertainment purposes, and a reminder to myself. She moved away to Washington, so I never have to see her, but I read her statuses from time to time. They're either extremely happy and sarcastic, or depression and emotional, with no between. Went and listened to this song out of curiosity, and can't say I'm surprised. Feminist garbage, rationalizing their bad behavior by their past, or being drunk, metaphors about self-harm.. the list in endless. Pretty sure this was the kind of sh!t my BPD ex listened to too. Maybe I should had paid more attention to these indie films/music.

-Scars
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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with no between

That's BPD. When she likes something, it will be the most amazing thing in the world, much like a teenage girl. If you're her guy, she will feel that way about you, and that's what guys get hooked on.

But then she'll change like the weather, to the exact opposite. That most amazing song in the world is now forgotten. That most amazing guy is now the most evil man in the world and deserves to suffer. Inherent in the disorder is that 'jekyl & hyde' flipping back and forth between extremes.

Guys who have just left a BPD relationship have a hard time adjusting to a healthy relationship afterward. A sane woman can't love you like a crazy girl does, at least on a crazy girl's good day. That makes sane women boring by comparison, especially to the illogical side of the brain that determines attraction.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Guys who have just left a BPD relationship have a hard time adjusting to a healthy relationship afterward. A sane woman can't love you like a crazy girl does, at least on a crazy girl's good day. That makes sane women boring by comparison, especially to the illogical side of the brain that determines attraction.
I have to put my hand up for this one unfortunately.

"A crazy girl's good day" is pretty hard to match. That's a great term.
 

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This girl was also "engaged" then she wrote a huge long status putting her fiance on blast. She claimed that he cheated on her with his ex (she also made it a point to mention she was fat), that he is into 12yr old girls (?), that he is a scum bag, had a drug problem etc.. Not sure how much of it is true, but this girl is disgustingly hilarious sometimes. This has got to be the worst case of BPD I've ever seen. Even my ex wasn't this crazy.

-Scars
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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