"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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BPD Insanity

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papawapa said:
I spent 13 years in borderland. I was fortunate to get out alive. In the end I was a shell of the man I once was.

Gtfo now. Save yourself from her insanity. Block her number or change yours. Go ghost. Dont explain yourself. Just be done. I am telling you it is for the best.

Why would you want to have a 'relationship' with a mentally ill woman? You realize that she is not healthy and therefore incapable of having a healthy relationship?
There are millions of women out there, plenty that can bang well, go find a good one.


holy f@ck 13 years... have you got over her yet? or is she still in your head somewhere?

i did 3 years with mine, on and off... and i feel totaly mind f@cked, and addicted...

the only way out for me was GHOST... it was the only way!

man i can't even believe i considered marrying this girl, even moving in with her... she would have destroyed me!

only 2 weeks out, and i,m stunned at how stupid i have been


they get you with there looks and good sex... but they do not love you!

they will stroke your ego, make you feel good... but it's not love
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes I am over her. No way i will go back to that living hell. It took going no contact and banginga few chicks.
 

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You're right. The urge to explain myself is still there. I need to ignore it.
 

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JWT, I was in an 11 month relationship with a diagnosed Bipolar Disorder. But these are just labels psychiatrists use loosely. They will often diagnose a BPD as being Bipolar since most insurances don't cover personality disorders and Bipolar is a mood disorder. Also BPD carries a stigma, so they try to avoid that diagnosis at all costs. Anyhow, after 11 months, I was completely broken. She sucked the life out of me. I suggest you get out if you're strong enough. Easier said than done.
 

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So after leaving a vm yesterday, I text her and say I am busy and unable to talk now or later on in the evening as I have plans. That infuriated her and she accused me of not wanting to talk to her. Then she said she is breaking up with me but still kept texting. I said my parting words and now can move on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JWT said:
So after leaving a vm yesterday, I text her and say I am busy and unable to talk now or later on in the evening as I have plans. That infuriated her and she accused me of not wanting to talk to her. Then she said she is breaking up with me but still kept texting. I said my parting words and now can move on.
Stick to your guns and if you need encouragement and/or a kick in the a** you can count on the forum. :up:
 

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JWT said:
So after leaving a vm yesterday, I text her and say I am busy and unable to talk now or later on in the evening as I have plans. That infuriated her and she accused me of not wanting to talk to her. Then she said she is breaking up with me but still kept texting. I said my parting words and now can move on.
Just keep in mind....they can not change...do not try to explain their behavior because you can not add reason to irrational people....and expect that if you do go back to her that this type of behavior will be the norm and it will never change. Run Forrest Run!!!! It is not you....its them. Abe
 

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i am pretty certain mine was bdp.... but i have also been reading up on
passive agressive woman & she pretty much fills the bill there too

when she is annoyed, communication breaks down.. silent treatments... walking away... leaving or going to bed

holding grudges... witholding sex... hot & cold, push & pull

never ever apologizing.... man the whole relationship felt fake!


YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS BODERLINE HELL
 

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orbion2013 said:
i am pretty certain mine was bdp.... but i have also been reading up on
passive agressive woman & she pretty much fills the bill there too

when she is annoyed, communication breaks down.. silent treatments... walking away... leaving or going to bed

holding grudges... witholding sex... hot & cold, push & pull

never ever apologizing.... man the whole relationship felt fake!


YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS BODERLINE HELL
Sounds all too familiar. Even though I am not a doctor and can't officially diagnose, she fits BPD to a T. Except for the suicide threats and self-mutilation part that is very common with BPD. Maybe I just haven't seen it yet. In only nine months, and after peeling back more layers of the onion, I kept finding out more and more, especially pathological lies and broken promises. Thanks again all for the support!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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