"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BPD EX left and blocked need help processing and moving on.

Robert28

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I thought that his ex blocked him . My mistake . Still they find a way to come back into communication. Most men don’t have self control and i don’t think this dude has either .

For myself i never block . Blocking someone means that it burns me inside and I’m too co.cky to even show that .If she’s next , she’s next , I’m not entertaining the idea in my head that some magic going to happen and be back together .
She did but he can block her number too. Even if she’s blocked him on Facebook I think he can block getting messages from her. I don’t like keeping a lot of numbers in my phone, especially people I don’t plan on talking to. Just makes it easier to delete and block them so I won’t have to guess who it is when a random number pops up on my phone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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NSX-R

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She did but he can block her number too. Even if she’s blocked him on Facebook I think he can block getting messages from her. I don’t like keeping a lot of numbers in my phone, especially people I don’t plan on talking to. Just makes it easier to delete and block them so I won’t have to guess who it is when a random number pops up on my phone.
No need for that . As i said if he block her means that he still cares in a woman’s book and that’s a fact . Showing indifference and not responding from now on is the best way to have peace of mind .

Other than that , who’s still calling in 2020?I thought texting was the major form of communication.You could just delete the conversation and it won’t pop up in front of your screen every time you open the app .
 

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No need for that . As i said if he block her means that he still cares in a woman’s book and that’s a fact . Showing indifference and not responding from now on is the best way to have peace of mind .

Other than that , who’s still calling in 2020?I thought texting was the major form of communication.You could just delete the conversation and it won’t pop up in front of your screen every time you open the app .
If she’s truly NPD or even BPD they’ll do ANYTHING to come back into your life. They’ll email your friends they’ve talked to once or twice, they’ll mail you a letter if they have your address, they’ll text you from a friends phone. Trust me, I’ve experienced these types and they’ll find you if they want to.
 

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I hope she doesnt. I feel like i just need to take my life back into my own hands and move on. Deep down i know i ll be good and will move on in a few weeks or months. There s still a part of me thats sad for her as she will continue with her destructive behaviour rather than be someone better and have something better. But i guess we r all responsible adults and are responsible for own hapiness. You make choices and you dont look back - she made hers and i m making mine. Will ignore if ever she reaches out, which everyone thinks she will because she s stuck in her pattern.
 

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If she’s truly NPD or even BPD they’ll do ANYTHING to come back into your life. They’ll email your friends they’ve talked to once or twice, they’ll mail you a letter if they have your address, they’ll text you from a friends phone. Trust me, I’ve experienced these types and they’ll find you if they want to.
Had one stalk me for two years after i left her, would text my friends even on multiple accounts on whatsapp
Crazy
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Roma. Grab your balls and do a gut check. Seriously she’s doing you a favour.
she’s a train wreck dude. Want to be saddled with this for ever??? Think about it.
 
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