"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BPD ex contacts me after 6 mos NC

DangNammit

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She gutted me completely and left me wondering wtf happened.

I have been pining for her for a long, long time. She sent me a text this am - no hi or how u been... just her phone number and "its me so and so" all topped off with a smiley.

Crazy *****. I deleted the message and am trying hard again to forget I ever knew her. This sucks because I've never loved someone so much before...

But I have a gal who is great right now - who isn't going to pull that crap and that helps. Just venting guys... thanks
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Julius_Seizeher

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Man, this is another one of those things that make you think there is Female Behavior Manual somewhere. It seems all women, BPD or not, will try to re-establish contact 6 mos. after a breakup. I mean it's up there with "death and taxes."

My last ex, who wasn't BPD, did the same thing.
 

ThunderMaverick

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Same thing happened to me. She dumped me in December and contacted me in June. No joke. I kept up contact and it ended in tears all over again.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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frencha

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Got dumped recently starting to wonder if my dumb ex will call. Argh.. the agony she put me through..:box:

Be strong dude, keep the gal you got now.:up:
 
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