"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BPD ex contacts me after 6 mos NC

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DangNammit

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She gutted me completely and left me wondering wtf happened.

I have been pining for her for a long, long time. She sent me a text this am - no hi or how u been... just her phone number and "its me so and so" all topped off with a smiley.

Crazy *****. I deleted the message and am trying hard again to forget I ever knew her. This sucks because I've never loved someone so much before...

But I have a gal who is great right now - who isn't going to pull that crap and that helps. Just venting guys... thanks
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Julius_Seizeher

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Man, this is another one of those things that make you think there is Female Behavior Manual somewhere. It seems all women, BPD or not, will try to re-establish contact 6 mos. after a breakup. I mean it's up there with "death and taxes."

My last ex, who wasn't BPD, did the same thing.
 
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ThunderMaverick

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Same thing happened to me. She dumped me in December and contacted me in June. No joke. I kept up contact and it ended in tears all over again.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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frencha

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Got dumped recently starting to wonder if my dumb ex will call. Argh.. the agony she put me through..:box:

Be strong dude, keep the gal you got now.:up:
 
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