"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Boyfriend is in Montana

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Hey all! :D

I've been lookin for tips about "taken" girls for the past half hour, but can't find much but "online" bf's. Here's my question:

There's a HB9 that's had a high IL in me for a few years now, she's a friend of a friend. I don't get many chances to talk with her, but she's always glad to bs when we get a chance. Everytime I see her, she makes it a point to at least wave or say hi. Here's the problem, she has a boyfriend of 2 years, but he's been in Montana for about a year now, she and I are in Michigan. Whenever his name is brought up, she speaks poorly of him. In a conversation a few months ago, I told her she should make it a point to grab lunch with me on one of her days off. She told me she couldn't because her boyfriend is a very jealous kinda guy. I ran into her last week at her job, and she dropped everything she was doing because she wanted to show me the pictures from her most recent trip. I shrugged, put on a obviously fake smile and said "I guess I'd check them out". Is she leading me on or is she looking to use me as a reason out of her current loooong distance relationship? or is it something completely different? Whats your take on her intentions?:confused: :confused:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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9 times out of 10 if chicks are around men who makes them giddy and wet there will be no such thing as a "long distance relationship" ( btw that 1 out of 10 doesnt really exist and i just wrote 9 times out of 10 to humour all the jokers who actually believe there is such a thing as a "relationship" in a LDR, in short there is no such thing)

and even if there a few AFCs and chicks who "know of someone who made it work" pay no attention to them , they wont even realise anyway for they will be to entrenched in the latest episode of Oprah or chapter in a mills and boon to see any different.

you mate have to put the sh1t on here to practise and make this chick wet then bite the bullet and go for it. its the only way your question will be answered.

on a side note a HB9???? are you serious, thats 90% perfect you realise. where are all these 9s hiding? , im 28 and i can honestly count on 1 hand the amount of 9s ive seen in my life.
 

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Originally posted by ( . )( . )

on a side note a HB9???? are you serious, thats 90% perfect you realise. where are all these 9s hiding? , im 28 and i can honestly count on 1 hand the amount of 9s ive seen in my life.
damn yo, you must be one picky mofo. just curious but who do you consider to be a 9? 10?
 

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Different standards
 

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just come right out and tell her you're interested and if she wants to go on a date or whatever.... if she says no, move on, no sense wasting time and missing out on others over something that just isn't gonna happen.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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( . ) ( . ) - She's in shape (works out regularly), shoulder length sandy blonde hair (perfect if u ask me), deep eyes, shorter than me (I'm on 5'6", so its hard to find a chick shorter), she's got picky tastes of her own, and she's got a good head on her shoulders. You're right, maybe I should change it to a 10. Lol, no one's perfect, that's y she gets a 9. You make some good points.


Crank_It_Up - Very good point! But who said anything about missing out on others? :cool:
 

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Originally posted by pharoh
damn yo, you must be one picky mofo. just curious but who do you consider to be a 9? 10?
oh no no no, i will fvck almost anything and have and still do, im just saying i take the rating system literally and if someone says a 9 that must logically mean 90% perfect, musnt it?

and that being said i just dont know of many chicks who are 90% perfect.

alot of guys (myself included) make the mistake of rating a few points higher than what the chick really is, my way seems to be suiting me just fine and also by giving it a literall and subjective percenatge of how close to perfect she is also a GREAT tool in helping a guy not sh1t his pants when hes around the hotter chicks.

so by giving chicks what i call a "real life" rating your looking at her in a different light.

its helped me out among hotties on a few occaisons in the past where its easy for a guy to sometimes accidentally slip up and revert back to old ingrained AFC ways.
 
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