VashStampede
Don Juan
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I very much doubt they have cheerleaders in Mongolia. Im gonna guess you are from the states
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most of these girls you are encountering only have boyfriends when they meet you, meaning it is you who needs to improve and change the way you vibe with them, etc.mongolboy said:Aight so i met so many fcking hot girls that had boyfriends ofcourse.. but anywais i was wondering if anybody in here has an experience on how to do dis so maybe the can offer me some advice and for everybody else too! I THINK THIS IS A VERY ESSENTIAL POST !EVEN THOUGH IS KINA EVIL
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This makes sense except that the boyfriend might give the girl an ultimatum and that may lead her to stay away from you....LJC said:I suppose everyone has thier own way of doing it. For me, the BF destroying material doesn't just work the girl. It works the BF too. And, it doesn't make a BF just look a certain way, it actually makes him that way.
Jealousy is the kingpin of the process. He has to know I exist. The reason he has to know is because, as a man, he's going to know exactly what I'm trying to do. But of course, he's not going to have the proof. The only proof he has is that he knows I'm being very friendly and sociable to his GF for a particular reason, but in so far as the GF is (and I am) concerned, I'm just friendly and sociable. This is where the wedge starts.
When he tries to step in my way to stop me, he immediately becomes irrational to her, even though he's behaving in a completely rational way to me. She sees it as jealousy and insecurity, even though I know he's reacting justifiably, for good reason. All I have to do is pretend to struggle to understand why two people just being sociable is so threatening to him. The more he tries to stop it, the more he's going to f*ck it up for himself. He can even try to explian to her that I'm trying to steal her and she won't believe it, because I haven't given her a solid reason to believe it yet.
When you get a guy to this point, then whenever she goes out without him, he's going to want to know more about where she's going, what she's doing, who she's going to be with. Eventually, he actually becomes the jealous, insecure, controlling, a-hole jerk of a BF. I become her temporary escape to sanity through the process.
The deeper the wedge goes, the more I start to turn the get togethers into more date-like situations. I grab diner instead of a lunch, because I'm hungry. I invite her over to my place to watch a movie, because I'm bored....
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.