"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Boxing or Fitness?

sangheilios

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Yeh bro. I get it. BJJ was my first combat sport as an adult. Did it for years. Even still I love when I see pure BJJ guys get beat up in MMA.

Some are so arrogant. Its like when you give a bullied nerd a super power they go overboard. Many think that they dont need to learn any other martial art. They get a rude awakening when they get punched in the face.

I also hate when BJJ guys call their BJJ match a " fight". No its not a fight. It is a grappling match. A fight involves strikes.
Omg and the BJJ chicks are the worst. Dont me started on that.

I miss the tradition and humility of traditional martial arts like Karate. You have to bow towards and respect your training partners etc.
I was working with my boxing/kickboxing trainer whilst also doing BJJ at the same gym, though the trainer I worked with for like 9 months. I remember that I got pretty proficient at boxing very fast and that felt much more like a real fight to me instead of literally starting off sitting on the ground lol. Looking back on it, even with my limited training I probably could have beaten most of the BJJ students at that gym in an MMA fight unless they could find some way to knock me down. At 6'4" and 220+, I forget exactly what I weighed back then, that would have been a challenge for most of those guys there.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I was mostly referring to actually competing. BJJ I tried for a month and hated it, mostly because the trainers/coaches were douchebags, as were the students there as well. I remember getting into a lot of weird positions that legitimately strained my elbows, hips and back. I distinctly recall waking up the next morning after one of the classes and having back pain as I got out of bed. I knew right then and there that I'd be jacked up if I stuck with it, so I cancelled the membership.
BJJ is such a meme. If you do it for it's own sake ie building a discipline, hobby, and sense of brotherhood, that's great. But it's worthless for a street fight. The last place you wanna be in a fight is on the ground, you'll scrape all your skin off on the pavement and worse, one of their boys might come in and kick your skull in. It's such a joke. People forget how real fights work. You want to end a fight ASAP (ie haymaker to the head) then split, not scuffle around on the floor like an autist for several minutes.
 

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BJJ is such a meme. If you do it for it's own sake ie building a discipline, hobby, and sense of brotherhood, that's great. But it's worthless for a street fight. The last place you wanna be in a fight is on the ground, you'll scrape all your skin off on the pavement and worse, one of their boys might come in and kick your skull in. It's such a joke. People forget how real fights work. You want to end a fight ASAP (ie haymaker to the head) then split, not scuffle around on the floor like an autist for several minutes.
The same things can be said about mma. That was my biggest takeaway lesson from it, how different it is from real. The cage is like a padded room for crazy people. The floor is made of boards that flex and multiple layers of mat. A slam that would be life ending on pavement is worthless...you just bounce and it doesn't hurt at all.

Padded gloves are a big difference that benefits the wearer. If I ever got into a bar fight, I'm fairly certain I could break the hands of some guy trying to punch me by throwing elbows. It would be hilarious. "Officer, that guy punched me, but hurt his hand and started crying." Then he gets a battery charge and an expensive orthopedic surgery.

My trainer had a Japanese jiu jitsu background. A lot of it was against mma rules, because it works too well, lots of dirty tricks. There's no pulling guard. Mount position is shin on opponents belly, with the other foot on the ground. I've seen cops use it on the street.
 

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Well, why not you could have both. Boxing is a great way to lose weight and hence you could go for practicing boxing and maitain fitness.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Boxing, muay thai, wrestling with a little bit of Brazillian juijitsu...all you need for a street fight...unless you're a Shaolin Monk who have Tai Chi and QiGong knowledge of applied presssure points to the body lol....Boxing is all about footwork also.. make sure to do a lot of jump ropes and play soccer with your friends for cardio and more footwork.
 
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