You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No man regular punch-defense trainingAre we talking sparring and amateur fights?
I don't understand the context. Do you want to hunt down somebody who's running away or are you describing yourself as the guy who's escaping?No man regular punch-defense training
lol noI don't understand the context. Do you want to hunt down somebody who's running away or are you describing yourself as the guy who's escaping?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I don't see the problem. Close the distance and build up pressure. If he's scared he needs to learn how to take a punch. You don't have to beat up the guy. Be a true sportsman and hit him with some slight punches. If he starts to increase his pace, you do it too. Don't worry about his anxiety, just do your thing.lol no
This is a boxing class had to mention
Yesterday I was training with a guy and he start shaking like crazy and I did not know what to do cause he was done (I did nothing he probably had anxiety) so I start punching in the air and then the trainer came and speak why I dont punching him in the face I looked the guy in the eyes see the ok and punch and everything was ok.. but the entire training I could not focus again and he always taking too much space and I cant run after him.. and this is frustrating cause the trainer then asking me why I punch from far away
This what I neededClose the distance and build up pressure. If he's scared he needs to learn how to take a punch. You don't have to beat up the guy. Be a true sportsman and hit him with some slight punches. If he starts to increase his pace, you do it too. Don't worry about his anxiety, just do your thing
Yea I guess he's just a little bit younger then me and that the reasonAn example of this was when I was considering joining the airforce (wanted to do electronic repair). I was at MEPS getting a physical. I was extremely anxious despite calm conscious thoughts and actions. I was fine, but my heart would stay above 120. Doctors were concerned until I explained, then they understood and weren't worried. Simple anxiety to be expected in a new and highly stressful environment.
Fact was I otherwise felt perfectly fine. I was okay when I got the bad news that I was disqualified for my type of astigmatism.
So, I think the other guy is simply subconsciously anxious of being hit. It will go away when he gets used to it.
I've had other times where I was nervous like this. I just blocked it out and acted logically despite my hand shaking. I was fine. Anxiety is a normal response to stress.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.