"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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How you deal with guys who running away or guys that shaking like they having heart attack and they are enough time in boxing

I'm not that a mad person but I'm socially retarded so I dont know what to do
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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HyenaPrince said:
I don't understand the context. Do you want to hunt down somebody who's running away or are you describing yourself as the guy who's escaping?
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lol no
This is a boxing class had to mention
Yesterday I was training with a guy and he start shaking like crazy and I did not know what to do cause he was done (I did nothing he probably had anxiety) so I start punching in the air and then the trainer came and speak why I dont punching him in the face I looked the guy in the eyes see the ok and punch and everything was ok.. but the entire training I could not focus again and he always taking too much space and I cant run after him.. and this is frustrating cause the trainer then asking me why I punch from far away
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jack12345 said:
lol no
This is a boxing class had to mention
Yesterday I was training with a guy and he start shaking like crazy and I did not know what to do cause he was done (I did nothing he probably had anxiety) so I start punching in the air and then the trainer came and speak why I dont punching him in the face I looked the guy in the eyes see the ok and punch and everything was ok.. but the entire training I could not focus again and he always taking too much space and I cant run after him.. and this is frustrating cause the trainer then asking me why I punch from far away
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I don't see the problem. Close the distance and build up pressure. If he's scared he needs to learn how to take a punch. You don't have to beat up the guy. Be a true sportsman and hit him with some slight punches. If he starts to increase his pace, you do it too. Don't worry about his anxiety, just do your thing.

Also, if he pulls this sh*t too often you should ask your trainer for more experienced sparring partners. You don't learn anything by sparring with someone who's afraid to exchange blows.

How long have you been boxing for?
 
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HyenaPrince said:
Close the distance and build up pressure. If he's scared he needs to learn how to take a punch. You don't have to beat up the guy. Be a true sportsman and hit him with some slight punches. If he starts to increase his pace, you do it too. Don't worry about his anxiety, just do your thing
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This what I needed
Thanks man :cool: :cool:

I'm into this few months and I like it I always try to hide my smile to not look like crazy
 
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i think the other guy just needs to get used to taking punches. Deliver some. He'll be okay. He could be subconsciously nervous and shaking, but consciously okay and calm.
 
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An example of this was when I was considering joining the airforce (wanted to do electronic repair). I was at MEPS getting a physical. I was extremely anxious despite calm conscious thoughts and actions. I was fine, but my heart would stay above 120. Doctors were concerned until I explained, then they understood and weren't worried. Simple anxiety to be expected in a new and highly stressful environment.
Fact was I otherwise felt perfectly fine. I was okay when I got the bad news that I was disqualified for my type of astigmatism.
So, I think the other guy is simply subconsciously anxious of being hit. It will go away when he gets used to it.

I've had other times where I was nervous like this. I just blocked it out and acted logically despite my hand shaking. I was fine. Anxiety is a normal response to stress.
 
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redskinsfan92 said:
An example of this was when I was considering joining the airforce (wanted to do electronic repair). I was at MEPS getting a physical. I was extremely anxious despite calm conscious thoughts and actions. I was fine, but my heart would stay above 120. Doctors were concerned until I explained, then they understood and weren't worried. Simple anxiety to be expected in a new and highly stressful environment.
Fact was I otherwise felt perfectly fine. I was okay when I got the bad news that I was disqualified for my type of astigmatism.
So, I think the other guy is simply subconsciously anxious of being hit. It will go away when he gets used to it.

I've had other times where I was nervous like this. I just blocked it out and acted logically despite my hand shaking. I was fine. Anxiety is a normal response to stress.
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Yea I guess he's just a little bit younger then me and that the reason

If he managed to stay so far then probably he ok to be punched, but it feels like punching a little boy I lose control over my hands.. I will try to pressure him a bit and see how he reacts
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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