"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bought roses for a lady at work today...

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Now, before you shred me to pieces and call me a worthless WAFC I have to clarify:

I have no romantic interest what so ever.
I did it to show my gratitude because she worked very hard last week to get me home when I was stranded abroad due to the flight cancellations here in Europe. God knows how many days of trouble she saved me.

She was so touched she almost cried.

She helped some of my colleagues too but they barely thanked her.

Sometimes it's important to support the ones that support you. An unexpected gesture of gratitude goes a long way.

Cheers
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nothing wrong with that. Good for you. Gratitude is always appreciated once it is made known.
 

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True...took so little of effort and made her day!
 

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K-man said:
Now, before you shred me to pieces and call me a worthless WAFC I have to clarify:

I have no romantic interest what so ever.
I did it to show my gratitude because she worked very hard last week to get me home when I was stranded abroad due to the flight cancellations here in Europe. God knows how many days of trouble she saved me.

She was so touched she almost cried.

She helped some of my colleagues too but they barely thanked her.

Sometimes it's important to support the ones that support you. An unexpected gesture of gratitude goes a long way.

Cheers
I see no problem with that. Nice gesture of gratitude.
 

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You sir, are a God!

You're the kind of guy that people will kill themselves for. Praise (when it's deserved) is a very powerful motivator of future favors.

She's probably earned 500 bouqets of roses over the years and you're the only one bold enough to give them to her. She will not forget this!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good for you! Always appreciate the things people do for you. We are usually selfish and take things for granted
 

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K-man said:
Now, before you shred me to pieces and call me a worthless WAFC I have to clarify:

I have no romantic interest what so ever.
I did it to show my gratitude because she worked very hard last week to get me home when I was stranded abroad due to the flight cancellations here in Europe. God knows how many days of trouble she saved me.

She was so touched she almost cried.

She helped some of my colleagues too but they barely thanked her.

Sometimes it's important to support the ones that support you. An unexpected gesture of gratitude goes a long way.

Cheers
Good job . Being genuinely grateful, and rewarding a woman's efforts is manly, not AFCish.

If the situation had been different, and you had bought her roses simply to trigger some interest in you hoping to entice her to go out with you, then THAT would have been a chump move.
 

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I'm not exactly sure why the OP posted this. I've sent thank-you cards to women in business situations before, and they were pleased, but me sending a thank-you card after a date would be weird beyond comprehension.

Non-dating interactions are vastly different than dating interactions. Which is why when you (or the situation you're in) let a woman know you're NOT hitting on her, her whole demeanor changes.
 

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be gentle and "nice" are two different things.

If you buy roses to thank her for her help I can just say YES. :up:

If you buy roses to get her approval in purpose she would fall in love with you, then you get a NO. :down:

yesterday at the supermarket of my area, I was at the milk section getting some bottles of fat-free milk. Then a lady was waiting besides me (to get the same kind of milk). I just gives her mines (and 2 other ones). She was so surprized by and thanked me with a great smile.

cheers
 

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K-man said:
Now, before you shred me to pieces and call me a worthless WAFC I have to clarify:

I have no romantic interest what so ever.
I did it to show my gratitude because she worked very hard last week to get me home when I was stranded abroad due to the flight cancellations here in Europe. God knows how many days of trouble she saved me.

She was so touched she almost cried.

She helped some of my colleagues too but they barely thanked her.

Sometimes it's important to support the ones that support you. An unexpected gesture of gratitude goes a long way.

Cheers
It's fine to show your gratitude, but why roses? It does not fit the situation, there are a million other ways to show your gratitude.

That would be like me giving my female friend purfume or a diamond necklace for her birthday, it's not the right gift for *friends.* Those are more intimate gifts reserved for lovers.

I bet you she was more embarassed by the gift than flattered by it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Trader said:
It's fine to show your gratitude, but why roses? It does not fit the situation, there are a million other ways to show your gratitude.

That would be like me giving my female friend purfume or a diamond necklace for her birthday, it's not the right gift for *friends.* Those are more intimate gifts reserved for lovers.

I bet you she was more embarassed by the gift than flattered by it.
Absolutely not!

You know, roses come in many colors and variants. Just avoid the red!:rolleyes:
 
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