"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Boss is making moves on my gf

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My gf's boss is making moves on my gf. He is making a lot of small talk with her. Joking around, pranking her at the office. Than he asked her to come along with the rest of the co-workers for wings and drink after work. She didn't go but said she may next time?

Whats my best reaction. So far I was like okay, that's cool. :up:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I wouldn't worry about it, unless of course, he was buying her a watch and offering to buy her a boob job.
 

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Nothing, just keep your cool. If your confident you wouldn't worry about it, because you know that your the prize.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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MacAvoy said:
Nice stab

agree...I was about to say something along those lines, but really why make fun of someone in that predicament?
 

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j0n024 said:
agree...I was about to say something along those lines, but really why make fun of someone in that predicament?


Not making fun of anything. The starter of this thread has nothing to worry about, unless there is more info we don't know about, as in the guy being creepy and trying to buy her and worse yet, she going a long with it.
 

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inzone50 said:
My gf's boss is making moves on my gf. He is making a lot of small talk with her. Joking around, pranking her at the office. Than he asked her to come along with the rest of the co-workers for wings and drink after work. She didn't go but said she may next time?

Whats my best reaction. So far I was like okay, that's cool. :up:
Buy her a sexy black thong at Victoria's Secret, and have her wear some low riser chick jeans (Tight) with the thong showing. Have her wear a tank top with this, and a tight fitting leather coat. Tell her to have a wonderful night, "Girls night out" and stay home and watch re-runs of "Lost" Text her at 3am that night to ask where she is, and when she replies, "Having Breakfast" answer back "Be careful"....when she gets in the next AM, hung over and slightly bowlegged, dont ask too many questions because sometimes, it's better not to hear the answers you fear the most.
 

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I would only be suspicious when, the boss asks her to hang out when its just them and not with; the co-workers.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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This is why its generally a bad move to date women at work; you see every guy who is around her as a threat, whether its called for or not. If its her boss, he has an obligation to talk to his subordinates. Be happy that she has a boss who is nice to her (in a platonic way) Its better than having a POS boss who is always tearing her down.
 

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If she;s a serious gf and not just some broad you're banging for a little while, then next time he asks her out for drinks you should go with her. He probably won't bother asking her if he knows you're going to show up everytime :)
 

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Is this in the US? It sounds like the beginnings of a sexual harassment case.

I'd say to stay aloof, but try to be out for drinks with people whom she does not know when she is out doing the same.
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
I wouldn't worry about it, unless of course, he was buying her a watch and offering to buy her a boob job.
thanks for the reference...:trouble:

i agree with him though.. as far as it sounds, not much to be worried about. depends really on what type of girl you have. some chics love this attention even without actual intent.

the problem with that thinking, is women may not have the intent at first, but after work and effort or even a slip in your relationship may arise a mishap

..but i wouldnt worry so much, she is responsible for her own actions.
 

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Just one question...where do you work?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Acting threatened by this guy will give her the upper hand. Remember that you are the catch, not her. She's lucky to be with you, right? Live it and breath it.
 
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