"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BootCamp 7-26-06

Ashigaru

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Day 9 of Week 3

I can speak for both GSP and I when I say that we've got our drive and motivation back. I opened up 2 sets and attempted one more. The first two sets were successful and I got a number close on the second set. I introduced GSP and a friend to both sets and GSP managed a number close on another HB in the 2nd set. The best motivating factor of that night was that 2 people asked how I knew one of the HBs when I barely just met her. The rapport build-up was excellent. Tonight was a blast. My BC count is at 3.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Day 9 Week 3

Today was a blast, we were both able to get passed the initial approach anxiety .All the Sets I tried to open pretty much got shot down in flames, but one of the sets Ashigaru opened I was able to get build some good rapport with an HB7, numbered closed with a time restraint. My BC count is at 4 now.
 

Ashigaru

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Day 10, 11, 12, 13 of Week 3

Up to 4 for the BC with a number close on Day 10. Me and GSP tried our day game on Day 12, but failed. We might have to repeat Week 3 for the 2nd time.
 

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Day 14 and 15 Week 3

We ended up having to extend week 3 because we mainly can only go out on the weekend. Went out on day 14 and did awful, did not even open one set in 3 hours, I was pretty pissed.

Day 15 I did a little better we went out to a club and I just grabed an HB7 and took her to the dance floor. Saw her throughout the night and I did a lot of Kino and I'm pretty sure I could have kissed closed but I didn't.. Also almost finished up my Week 3 BC, I was able to make conversation with 3 HB's and need just 1 more to finish week 3.
 

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Day 14, 15 of Week 3

Day 14 was non-existent, for I did not go out with GSP that night.

Day 15:

Started off the night by showing social proof while mingling with some familar faces. Then continued on a high note by opening a huge set. I should have conintued with them further onto the dance floor, but I didn't hear what they said to me. That one did not count towards my BC since she was probaby a HB4. Outside, I opened up a mixed set with 3 HBs and 1 dude. Chopped it up with two of the HBs for a few minutes. Tried opening another mixed set, although the dude was being a jerk, I used it to talk to an HB next to him. Now at this point it's at 3 for my BC, 7 total. Near the bar, I managed to talk to a tall HB and she gave me a boatload of kino. In the middle of the convo she said I smelled like cigarettes and stopped talking to me. Then I talked to one of her HB friends, but it did not feel like 2 minutes long. Managed to get 8 out of 10 so far for BC.

Although I got 4 for my BC, I felt like the night was a failure. I got through A1 pretty easily, but kept on getting stuck at A2 and never getting to A3. It was so damn frustrating. Instead of improving, I feel like I am in a stagnant position.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Day 17, 18, 19, 20, 21 of Week 3

Week 3 is finally completed. I've also stopped jerking off for 2 weeks and it has definitely made me more aggressive. It's awesome. During the long week 3, I've been on a couple of dates and am building my rapport skills. I am averaging about a date a week. I'm still working on the fcuk close though.

Time for week 4 and time for rejections.
 
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