"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Boot Camp Journel: The return

rushing dude 123

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I failed my 3rd week, so i have decided to retake it, but so far guys i have improved my social and confidence skills massivly to what it was before and i am pretty happy from the i want to die phase a month ago lol :rolleyes: . I have also learnt a few things from my mistakes on a 6 day cruise from a week ago and r contributing a lot to my social skills.

My biggest problem is holding a convosation with HB 7+ for quite a while, which is why week 3 was pretty difficult for me, but there is no avoiding the problem i have to face it and become a expert in this area of expertise. I also reaquantied myself with mr right hand :down: , which is going to stop after today :up: . Anyway guys thats all i am going to say because words r cheap. I will get back to u lot when i do some action. Any advice or comments will b well appreciated fellas.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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rushing dude 123

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Week 3

Day 1
alright today was kind of dissapointing, but i had other things on my mind. I was able to start quite a lot of 0-2 min convosation with HB 7+'s. I commented on something i saw about them or the situation they were in like missing or bus and i got quite a few good responses. In 3 occasions i was getting definete interest and should of jus continued instead of parting our seperate ways. Like i was on bike and came back behind a chick and i said howdy....she jumped and was like wow u scared me and i asked her for the time then added some c&f comments (she was smiling a lot), but i then left to quickly, when i should of continued to asking her name and got her number.

Also today I have been noticing my social skills have heavily improved compared to the quiet guy in the corner, now while i am waiting in a que i start making convosations with the strangers around me. I of course sometimes f up, but i learn from my mistakes.

I was dissapointed I only did one 2-10 min convo with a girl i thought was attractive and it went pretty badily. I made a joke about the gym class and said they go easy on u at the end so u come back. She was like what do u mean and well guys never explain why ur jokes r so funny lmao.....very akward. I didn't really care what she thought and kept going, which seemed to help, but i can see how i could of handled that situation better. Tommrow i am taking blood test so no training, which means i should hopefully focus more on approaches.
 

rushing dude 123

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Alright dissapointed about today, but i learned a few things. Well firstly i did one approach today, which was a HB 7 i saw sitting at the back of the bus. I sat down infront of her and then i went go for it and got up and said hello, do u mind giving me some advice. I was telling her how my clothes r all nike and everythink and they make me look young, then i asked her what she liked on a guy she gave me a few suggestions and smiled.

The convo was going well, but then i made some mistakes i said i wanted a kool look not the i am going to mug u look (this put negative thoughts in her head, i saw her expression change) and then she asked if i am trying to impress someone i said just want to look good for girls. Here i should of said nah i am just interested in change, for obvious reasons. She smiled, but did not give me much eye contact, so the main two things i should of done was sit in the seat facing her and just went straight for the approach. I could tell this was not succeful because she mentioned she had a bf. If she would of been better on her advice i would of asked for her email, but i didn't think she was that great.

Done some hi's today and some people just stared at me like wtf r u doing man, but idc. Think i need to work in this area more. Other things i did today was look at some clothes in shops which is not nike and all that other crap. I look different, but think i would look more approachable and more mature. Havn't worn jeans since i was 5 lmao :rolleyes: .

I had many opportunities today, but i was kind of distracted with other things. So i guess i should make more effort and i should see more opportunitys. Because i am getting a bit to comfortable with women i should have a bit more rush, but its just coming out natural. I think i need to push my boundarys out of my comfort zone and learn new things.
 

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How Bout U Start Da Bootcamp Again N Put Wat Is Needed To Start Da Bootcamp So I Can Join Also Iight
 

rushing dude 123

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Day 3
dam dam dam no approaches today, this is mainly due to me not making a effort and not being very active. I think this is the worst thing to do even worster than seeing a opportunity and not going for it, now i am not seeing opportunies. I did talk to some women today, but these people i would of talked to anyway, although i did notice my skills with them were much better and they complained about stuff and i put a positive spin on everythink like she was a liabrian assitant and said to me i wish i had one thing i was really good at, but i don't have any i replyed "u r pretty good at catalouging those books" she laughed and then i started saying u jus need to practice and she said i am one of the most positive people she met. Hm maybe more c & f because this is pretty close to friend zone maybe.

Alright guys i got really push myself i am to comfortable and don't seem to b improving a great deal, if even improving at all. I have not been doing training because well my feet have got serious problems loads of blisters and had a sceptic toe, but should of done weights or something. After todays peformance i am going to have to seriously up my game and get 2 2-10 min convos with attractive women a day.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I know I've said this to you before, but I just wanted to say congrats for getting back on your horse and getting on with the Boot Camp. I know from experience that that takes great strength.
 
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