"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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boosting confidence by talking

tom121

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lately i've been working hard so i dont really have time to think about girlfriend or looking for one

while talking i talk to all the female co-workers (i am a busboy so i have interaction with most workers) although some are older or aren't as pretty but talking to them boosting my confidence because i always though i was too ugly for girls to notice me

another thing is we have to wear shirt, black pants and a tie in work, i have noticed a lot of female customers were turning their head to see me when i walk by them

also some of the older co-workers said i'm good looking :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i have boost a lot of my confidence lately, i've been making a lot of my female co-workers laugh/chuckle at things i've said which is a good thing because they all started being really friendly to me as i am new to the job :cool:
 

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I found that if you talk with a bold tone, you'll turn heads. It's an awesome feeling.
 

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drawing positive attention to yourself always shows you that your not as bad off as you thought u was;)

start eyeing some of the girls down
 

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Originally posted by Boner da Stoner
drawing positive attention to yourself always shows you that your not as bad off as you thought u was;)

start eyeing some of the girls down
haha i don't have to do that, i always caught girls looking at me as i walk by them, but when i look at them they always look away though :(

i think the reason that i'm not scaried at work around female co-workers are that because i am not attracted to them, when i was working with a attractive woman near my age, i was kind of shaky and quiet around her, but once i started talking about random stuff she would open up to me
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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