"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know there are threads on here mentioning books to read but some are out dated. When I did a search for "books" there were a lot of posts that came up that I had to dig through to find value.

Just curious what books people are reading and/or suggest. For pickup, self improvement, etc..

The two that I recommend:

1.) Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
2.) The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

And here is a good one that is free and short; As a man thinketh..
http://www.1personalcare.com/free_to_subs/The%20Annotated%20As%20a%20Man%20Thinketh%20by%20James%20Allen.pdf
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I've heard that "Getting things done" by David Allen is a good book, but I haven't yet read it.

Since you mentioned "self improvement", I recommend some good fiction.
It expands your mind, your vocabulary, actually makes you more adventurous, etc.
 

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ChalengeGuyFan said:
I've heard that "Getting things done" by David Allen is a good book, but I haven't yet read it.

Since you mentioned "self improvement", I recommend some good fiction.
It expands your mind, your vocabulary, actually makes you more adventurous, etc.
I agree. Here is a list from TheArtofManliness website. Its 100 must read books for men. Most of which are fiction and classics:

http://artofmanliness.com/2008/05/14/100-must-read-books-the-essential-mans-library/
 

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You can't read a book to become a black belt. You'll learn a lot more if you go out there and get experience. That's not to say that books are useless. Just that they shouldn't be your primary tool for learning.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Rich dad poor dad by Robert kiyosaki
The art of seduction by Robert Greene
Awaken the giant within by Anthony robbins
 

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The prince by Niccolo Machiavelli. Sun tzu's Art of war. Both the art of seduction (which i read before taking the red pill) and the 48 laws of power too.
 

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SharinganUser said:
You can't read a book to become a black belt. You'll learn a lot more if you go out there and get experience. That's not to say that books are useless. Just that they shouldn't be your primary tool for learning.
I agree and wasn't my intention for this post. I believe reading to be a great way to improve inner game. I read a lot and about a lot of different things. Knowledge is power.
 

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I just finished "A Whole New Mind" by Daniel Pink. Great book and very thought provoking but a tad exaggerated. But in general a very timely read.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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