"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Books you must read in 2011

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If you had to read only a couple of books this year to become a better DJ, what would they be?

My picks would be:

Love by Stendhal. This guy is probably the most famous AFC in history. But, he wrote all about in great detail. He really dissects oneitis, how it happens, and is a great example of what not to do. Although, much of his writing can be reversed and applied to women in terms of how to get women to have oneitis for you, ie the whole crystallization thing. Spinning plates is a modern day version of causing crystallization. Much of the book is lame, but there is a lot of wisdom in this book. Here's a good quote from Stendhal: "It should be remembered that a person under the stress of strong emotions seldom has time to notice the emotions of whoever is causing them".

In terms of fictional characters, I would say anything by Nelson Demille. It doesn't get more alpha then than John Corey, a famous fictional character. Also the character in the Charm School is majorly alpha.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Greatest Salesman in the World

I'm all for career and financial self-improvement at this point. Reading up about women and improving on relationship skills might help to keep my bed warm on the cold nights, but it won't help to put warm food on the cold table.

I've been reading about animals, as well, specifically about lions and wolves, and the ones that have everything in the end are always the ones who were self-sufficient and independent in the beginning.
 

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AmIAFC said:
The Greatest Salesman in the World

I'm all for career and financial self-improvement at this point. Reading up about women and improving on relationship skills might help to keep my bed warm on the cold nights, but it won't help to put warm food on the cold table.

I've been reading about animals, as well, specifically about lions and wolves, and the ones that have everything in the end are always the ones who were self-sufficient and independent in the beginning.
I like that, what are the names of the lions and wolves book?
 
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