kingxxxman
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Sometimes i just don't know what to say.... or how to strike up a conversation. what are some good books on helping me be a great conversationalist?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Books on Conversing
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Diaforetikos
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Converstions is a hard subject to learn from a book. You will learn a hell of a lot more from experience.
Just talking to people. But it takes a willingness to be extremely outgoing. You will need to take a step out of your comfort zone and dedicate yourself to consciously learning from each conversation.
Becoming a good conversationalist isn't easy. If you really wanna learn this, man up and take the steps necessary to learn what you want.
Good luck mate.
Just talking to people. But it takes a willingness to be extremely outgoing. You will need to take a step out of your comfort zone and dedicate yourself to consciously learning from each conversation.
Becoming a good conversationalist isn't easy. If you really wanna learn this, man up and take the steps necessary to learn what you want.
Good luck mate.
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I agree with Diaforetikos about that. But I've read a few things that I've found useful.Diaforetikos said:
How to Make Great Conversation and Small Talk by Sean McPheat
and
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
Actually, I only read part of the first book and I'm reading the second one now. I found the first book useful for something to think about when you get stuck in a conversation or about coming up with topics in general.
The second book isn't about conversation per se, but has a lot of principles for dealing with people that I've found useful in talking to people.
I am aware of a few other books on the topic but I haven't read them so I can't say anything about them:
The Art of Conversation and
How to Talk to Anyone
I would read a wide variety of newspapers and magazines. Like the Times, Wash Post, Economist, Atlantic Monthly, and National Review (know thy enemy). Maybe Sports Illustrated, Rolling Stone, Money Magazine, and Motor Trend too.
Cookbooks are really good if you want to talk to females. Most women talk about shopping, their kids/pets (depending on age), and food. Who cares about the first, you can nod politely about the second, and actually enjoy talking about the third.
Having something to talk about is more important than tips and techniques that some book will give you. Interact and you'll find those out for yourself. Also...listen. That's probably the most important part of talking, just listening.
Cookbooks are really good if you want to talk to females. Most women talk about shopping, their kids/pets (depending on age), and food. Who cares about the first, you can nod politely about the second, and actually enjoy talking about the third.
Having something to talk about is more important than tips and techniques that some book will give you. Interact and you'll find those out for yourself. Also...listen. That's probably the most important part of talking, just listening.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.