kingxxxman
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Sometimes i just don't know what to say.... or how to strike up a conversation. what are some good books on helping me be a great conversationalist?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Diaforetikos
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Converstions is a hard subject to learn from a book. You will learn a hell of a lot more from experience.
Just talking to people. But it takes a willingness to be extremely outgoing. You will need to take a step out of your comfort zone and dedicate yourself to consciously learning from each conversation.
Becoming a good conversationalist isn't easy. If you really wanna learn this, man up and take the steps necessary to learn what you want.
Good luck mate.
Just talking to people. But it takes a willingness to be extremely outgoing. You will need to take a step out of your comfort zone and dedicate yourself to consciously learning from each conversation.
Becoming a good conversationalist isn't easy. If you really wanna learn this, man up and take the steps necessary to learn what you want.
Good luck mate.
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I agree with Diaforetikos about that. But I've read a few things that I've found useful.Diaforetikos said:
How to Make Great Conversation and Small Talk by Sean McPheat
and
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.
Actually, I only read part of the first book and I'm reading the second one now. I found the first book useful for something to think about when you get stuck in a conversation or about coming up with topics in general.
The second book isn't about conversation per se, but has a lot of principles for dealing with people that I've found useful in talking to people.
I am aware of a few other books on the topic but I haven't read them so I can't say anything about them:
The Art of Conversation and
How to Talk to Anyone
I would read a wide variety of newspapers and magazines. Like the Times, Wash Post, Economist, Atlantic Monthly, and National Review (know thy enemy). Maybe Sports Illustrated, Rolling Stone, Money Magazine, and Motor Trend too.
Cookbooks are really good if you want to talk to females. Most women talk about shopping, their kids/pets (depending on age), and food. Who cares about the first, you can nod politely about the second, and actually enjoy talking about the third.
Having something to talk about is more important than tips and techniques that some book will give you. Interact and you'll find those out for yourself. Also...listen. That's probably the most important part of talking, just listening.
Cookbooks are really good if you want to talk to females. Most women talk about shopping, their kids/pets (depending on age), and food. Who cares about the first, you can nod politely about the second, and actually enjoy talking about the third.
Having something to talk about is more important than tips and techniques that some book will give you. Interact and you'll find those out for yourself. Also...listen. That's probably the most important part of talking, just listening.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.