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Can you guys recommend any good books dealing with confidence? I've been in a rutt lately and really eager to climb out of it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Dalai Lama's Art of Happiness is the best I've ever found. It takes a very different approach than all others as it teaches confidence through personal contentment rather than achievement.
However, if you see it through, the results are phenomenal!
However, if you see it through, the results are phenomenal!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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You can't buy confidence. It is much like money, you either have it or not. You either have thing to be confident about or not. Confidence is fleeing-- at times you can take on the world;at other times the world takes control of you and blah blah blah
You can't buy confidence. It is much like money, you either have it or not. You either have thing to be confident about or not. Confidence is fleeing-- at times you can take on the world;at other times the world takes control of you
why not? confidence is a psychological state.
before the 1950's they used to think skiing was a natural ability which you "either had or not"
now we know better.
why not? confidence is a psychological state.
before the 1950's they used to think skiing was a natural ability which you "either had or not"
now we know better.
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Any kind of pseudo-confidence that is conjured up by dishonest self-talk is doomed to fail. How long can someone delude themselves, before truth hits them like a nasty herpes outbreak....
I do believe that self talk and affirmations work, but I also believe that ppl should find legitimate things to be confident about. True confidence is earned.
I do believe that self talk and affirmations work, but I also believe that ppl should find legitimate things to be confident about. True confidence is earned.