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easyjim
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Can you guys recommend any good books dealing with confidence? I've been in a rutt lately and really eager to climb out of it.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
The Dalai Lama's Art of Happiness is the best I've ever found. It takes a very different approach than all others as it teaches confidence through personal contentment rather than achievement.
However, if you see it through, the results are phenomenal!
However, if you see it through, the results are phenomenal!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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You can't buy confidence. It is much like money, you either have it or not. You either have thing to be confident about or not. Confidence is fleeing-- at times you can take on the world;at other times the world takes control of you and blah blah blah
You can't buy confidence. It is much like money, you either have it or not. You either have thing to be confident about or not. Confidence is fleeing-- at times you can take on the world;at other times the world takes control of you
why not? confidence is a psychological state.
before the 1950's they used to think skiing was a natural ability which you "either had or not"
now we know better.
why not? confidence is a psychological state.
before the 1950's they used to think skiing was a natural ability which you "either had or not"
now we know better.
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Any kind of pseudo-confidence that is conjured up by dishonest self-talk is doomed to fail. How long can someone delude themselves, before truth hits them like a nasty herpes outbreak....
I do believe that self talk and affirmations work, but I also believe that ppl should find legitimate things to be confident about. True confidence is earned.
I do believe that self talk and affirmations work, but I also believe that ppl should find legitimate things to be confident about. True confidence is earned.