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Can you guys recommend any good books dealing with confidence? I've been in a rutt lately and really eager to climb out of it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The Dalai Lama's Art of Happiness is the best I've ever found. It takes a very different approach than all others as it teaches confidence through personal contentment rather than achievement.
However, if you see it through, the results are phenomenal!
However, if you see it through, the results are phenomenal!
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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You can't buy confidence. It is much like money, you either have it or not. You either have thing to be confident about or not. Confidence is fleeing-- at times you can take on the world;at other times the world takes control of you and blah blah blah
You can't buy confidence. It is much like money, you either have it or not. You either have thing to be confident about or not. Confidence is fleeing-- at times you can take on the world;at other times the world takes control of you
why not? confidence is a psychological state.
before the 1950's they used to think skiing was a natural ability which you "either had or not"
now we know better.
why not? confidence is a psychological state.
before the 1950's they used to think skiing was a natural ability which you "either had or not"
now we know better.
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Any kind of pseudo-confidence that is conjured up by dishonest self-talk is doomed to fail. How long can someone delude themselves, before truth hits them like a nasty herpes outbreak....
I do believe that self talk and affirmations work, but I also believe that ppl should find legitimate things to be confident about. True confidence is earned.
I do believe that self talk and affirmations work, but I also believe that ppl should find legitimate things to be confident about. True confidence is earned.