Does this happen to anyone else? Like you see a girl you want to approach, and while your working up the guts to approach her you get a boner? I don't know, maybe it's just me. Like I'm sitting down after school and I want to approach this Freya chick from track, but I can't work up the balls and while I'm trying to work up the balls I get a boner. I don't know man.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Boner before approaching?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Who cares if you have a boner, its natural. I would be wondering why I didn't get a boner if I saw a HB I want to approach. Get in that sexual mind state.
Dannyrt34
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that's your penis telling you to make the approach.
Poonani Maker
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That's your penis telling you that she's sexual in your eyes. Even if a woman isn't sexual just doing her normal business I'll pop a boner. I see it as a grounding mechanism, it tells you that you're walking on this Earth and that you're head is no longer up in the clouds (on matters of school, work, whatever). You get a sense of connectedness with the chick before you even meet her (as if you've already had a sexual experience together). My boner grounds me to reality. If you see a car approaching, you get out of the way in order not to get hit (that's physics, reality). If you see a hot chick (sitting or standing), then she'd better make way for your boner. It gives you a bigger presence I think (and she'll notice).
L777
Master Don Juan
To get good at PU, you need to get past the 'working up the balls to approach' stage and be in the, 'there's no question as to whether I'm gonna approach or not, its what I do'.
To get like that, you need complete confidence and outcome-independence...and to not care if you have a boner or not.
Keep working at it man.
To get like that, you need complete confidence and outcome-independence...and to not care if you have a boner or not.
Keep working at it man.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Randallpink83
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hahaha thats cool man, good for you... I'm rarely "truly" relaxed enough for anything like that when I'm cold approaching... Even as many times as I've done it now I still feel nervous (which I enjoy the rush).. But I would say you must be pretty comfortable and relaxed with yourself... Go get it!!!
backbreaker
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the day my **** gets hard and I don't appraoch the woman that got my **** hard, will be the day I die as a man. ****, that's the clencher right there.
"look babe, I can't make this stuff up.. but I literary saw you over there and a certain male organ gave me a very district sign that he would enjoy your company"
"look babe, I can't make this stuff up.. but I literary saw you over there and a certain male organ gave me a very district sign that he would enjoy your company"
ConantheLibertarian
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Trying to work the balls up, but something else is coming up....:crackup:. It's not all bad, it's your blood rushing and being turned on, those are definitely good things. But it's like L777 said, you can't over-value the outcome. And you have to be in the mindset of what you expect to happen, not what you want to happen, be in control.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
the most fundamental rule of all...
The 3 second rule!
If you approach within 3 seconds of seeing the chick, I doubt you will have enough time to get it up.
Once you're in there, try to keep your mind off sex and the thought of f*cking her because:
1. You'll get a boner while you're talking to her
2. She will read your intentions from a mile away and you wont be successful.
Good luck!
The 3 second rule!
If you approach within 3 seconds of seeing the chick, I doubt you will have enough time to get it up.
Once you're in there, try to keep your mind off sex and the thought of f*cking her because:
1. You'll get a boner while you're talking to her
2. She will read your intentions from a mile away and you wont be successful.
Good luck!
Yeah, I've heard about the whole 3 second rule thing but at this point it's just hard for me to see a girl and within 3 seconds go up to her.Fash said:
And it doesn't even have to be a girl I would want to have sex with man, it happens with any girl.
Ive had it happen the other day when I walked past a chick and made eye contact..and also checked out the rest of her goodies, of course lol.
But as I dont wear tight pants or anything, I wouldnt have a problem with that..other than at the swimming pool maybe?
But as I dont wear tight pants or anything, I wouldnt have a problem with that..other than at the swimming pool maybe?
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i aint never had a boner walking up to a girl. that's fuked man haha. i would actually be a little ashamed. not that it's a bad thing.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
blackomen
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How do you do that, man? I'd love to be able to have a boner before approaching (to better convey sexual state instead of nervousness)