Does this happen to anyone else? Like you see a girl you want to approach, and while your working up the guts to approach her you get a boner? I don't know, maybe it's just me. Like I'm sitting down after school and I want to approach this Freya chick from track, but I can't work up the balls and while I'm trying to work up the balls I get a boner. I don't know man.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Boner before approaching?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Who cares if you have a boner, its natural. I would be wondering why I didn't get a boner if I saw a HB I want to approach. Get in that sexual mind state.
Dannyrt34
Master Don Juan
that's your penis telling you to make the approach.
Poonani Maker
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That's your penis telling you that she's sexual in your eyes. Even if a woman isn't sexual just doing her normal business I'll pop a boner. I see it as a grounding mechanism, it tells you that you're walking on this Earth and that you're head is no longer up in the clouds (on matters of school, work, whatever). You get a sense of connectedness with the chick before you even meet her (as if you've already had a sexual experience together). My boner grounds me to reality. If you see a car approaching, you get out of the way in order not to get hit (that's physics, reality). If you see a hot chick (sitting or standing), then she'd better make way for your boner. It gives you a bigger presence I think (and she'll notice).
L777
Master Don Juan
To get good at PU, you need to get past the 'working up the balls to approach' stage and be in the, 'there's no question as to whether I'm gonna approach or not, its what I do'.
To get like that, you need complete confidence and outcome-independence...and to not care if you have a boner or not.
Keep working at it man.
To get like that, you need complete confidence and outcome-independence...and to not care if you have a boner or not.
Keep working at it man.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
hahaha thats cool man, good for you... I'm rarely "truly" relaxed enough for anything like that when I'm cold approaching... Even as many times as I've done it now I still feel nervous (which I enjoy the rush).. But I would say you must be pretty comfortable and relaxed with yourself... Go get it!!!
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
the day my **** gets hard and I don't appraoch the woman that got my **** hard, will be the day I die as a man. ****, that's the clencher right there.
"look babe, I can't make this stuff up.. but I literary saw you over there and a certain male organ gave me a very district sign that he would enjoy your company"
"look babe, I can't make this stuff up.. but I literary saw you over there and a certain male organ gave me a very district sign that he would enjoy your company"
ConantheLibertarian
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Trying to work the balls up, but something else is coming up....:crackup:. It's not all bad, it's your blood rushing and being turned on, those are definitely good things. But it's like L777 said, you can't over-value the outcome. And you have to be in the mindset of what you expect to happen, not what you want to happen, be in control.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
the most fundamental rule of all...
The 3 second rule!
If you approach within 3 seconds of seeing the chick, I doubt you will have enough time to get it up.
Once you're in there, try to keep your mind off sex and the thought of f*cking her because:
1. You'll get a boner while you're talking to her
2. She will read your intentions from a mile away and you wont be successful.
Good luck!
The 3 second rule!
If you approach within 3 seconds of seeing the chick, I doubt you will have enough time to get it up.
Once you're in there, try to keep your mind off sex and the thought of f*cking her because:
1. You'll get a boner while you're talking to her
2. She will read your intentions from a mile away and you wont be successful.
Good luck!
Yeah, I've heard about the whole 3 second rule thing but at this point it's just hard for me to see a girl and within 3 seconds go up to her.Fash said:
And it doesn't even have to be a girl I would want to have sex with man, it happens with any girl.
Ive had it happen the other day when I walked past a chick and made eye contact..and also checked out the rest of her goodies, of course lol.
But as I dont wear tight pants or anything, I wouldnt have a problem with that..other than at the swimming pool maybe?
But as I dont wear tight pants or anything, I wouldnt have a problem with that..other than at the swimming pool maybe?
tony-montana
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i aint never had a boner walking up to a girl. that's fuked man haha. i would actually be a little ashamed. not that it's a bad thing.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
blackomen
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How do you do that, man? I'd love to be able to have a boner before approaching (to better convey sexual state instead of nervousness)