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Master Don Juan
Originally posted by Abbott
It is.
Really? The average woman is 5'4", ya know. If I'm taller than most women, then what's so bad?[/QUOTE]
Average height of an American male is something like 5"10.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Originally posted by Abbott
It is.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Be that as it may, that's their opinion. If you don't think I'm being honest, feel free to get a photo of say...Ronnie Coleman, and Usher (but any olympic sprinter will do too), cut off both their heads, and ask girls which body type they prefer heh. If Ronnie wins, PM me.That might be the dumbest thing I've ever heard.Originally posted by MindOverMatter
Couple of girls told me that they don't like the bodybuilder look because it leaves nothing to the imagination, since they can tell he's built like an ox no matter what kind of outfit he wears. Whereas athletic guys on the other hand look normal with clothes on, but have a surprise package underneath.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Think about it genius, if a guy looks thin in clothes do you really think a girl is going to look at him and wonder what he looks like with his shirt off thinking "I wonder if he looks muscular or thin under that shirt, I have to have sex with him to find out"Originally posted by Evil-Rom
Care to explain, Einstein?
Originally posted by MindOverMatter
That might be the dumbest thing I've ever heard.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You would have a point, if only I mentioned a "thin" guy to begin with. I didn't say "thin', I said normal with clothes on, athletic underneath. Now maybe you're a thin guy so you assumed that was normal, in which case I should clear it up that when I say normal, I don't mean thin.Think about it genius, if a guy looks thin in clothes do you really think a girl is going to look at him and wonder what he looks like with his shirt off thinking "I wonder if he looks muscular or thin under that shirt, I have to have sex with him to find out"
Feel free to assume all you want, I've posted a pic (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30488&perpage=40&pagenumber=3 ) and I'm anything but skinny. That quote I posted came from a discussion with a couple of my old female roomates when we were discussing our favorite types.If a girl actually said that to a guy she was just being nice to him because he was probably skinny.
Ok, I'll give you that, he's the best of the best. But use a pic of any bodybuilder, even amateur if you want.Come on dude obviously Ronnie Coleman is the extreme.
I'm 5'7" and 120 lbs. BMI = 18.8 People have said I'm thin and/or skinny, but I never quite sure if I should believe them.Originally posted by Ricky
It really depends what you mean by thin.
I used to be real thin before working out. I might look a little thin now with clothes on due to narrow shoulders, but am muscular underneath (the surprise they mentioned).
Fat girls have mentioned they feel insecure around thin guys because they look that much bigger.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Get jacked and you'll answer your own question.Originally posted by Abbott
I'm 5'7" and 120 lbs. BMI = 18.8 People have said I'm thin and/or skinny, but I never quite sure if I should believe them.
And no, I've never been interested in being bigger, since I'd feel weird and insecure if I was. After all, I've been the same size for probably 5 years now.
There is one plus...when I say things that are gutsy, they'd have much more impact because apparently I must be confident enough that they won't retaliate.
Ben
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.