"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Body language
- Thread starter tactic
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
http://members.aol.com/nonverbal2/entries.htm#Entries
http://members.aol.com/katydidit/bodylang.htm
http://www.selfgrowth.com/bodyl.html
This one in particular looks interesting:
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Phipps3.html
SealTeamSix
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when you look at her:
1. She looks at you with total concentration (enlarged puple, sparkling eyes etc..).
2. Plays with her hair, cloth, accessaries ..etc..
3. Smile with teetch showing.
If I get any of these 2 while I am chatting with a girl, I consider myself I am on with her.
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Dont get touchy feely with girls too soon. Actually not until your in bedroom.
If your walking just do it slow relaxed, put your shouldrs and head up, take up space.
It is easy, but make yourself feel like you are at home lying on your couch w/o a care in the world all the time. Wherever you are fel comfortable and at home.
I dont care about wehter a girl touches her hair or not, it is useless to worry about that. it is more important to handle your bodylanguage. Then every girl will touch her har when u talk to her.
Its all bout u becoming more attractive.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.