Body Language to get in the habit of doing

[kraytkiller]

So, one of the often-repeated advice on this site is to give off a confident looking body language. I also saw in one of the posts in the thread '1 minute personal magnetism exercise' that horaholic said this:

I read that when successful people smile, they bring the smile on just a little slower than normal. If you put a consious effort into smiling more slowly, you can get in the habit of it, and you are perceived as higher value to everyone. Im not sure why, but famous, and powerful people smile slowly, rather than put on an instant huge smile. Watch people on TV smile closely, and you will see it.

Then, watch some normal people, and nerdy people smile, and you will notice, they bring the smile on really fast.

Its wierd, but true.

So now I'm wondering, what other things like this should an aspiring Don Juan seek to make natural so that he could get an subconscious edge on the ladies?

Things I've added into my life, or am currently trying to incorporate are Walking tall, eye contact, keeping hands constantly relaxed, never folding my arms, never trying to furrow my brow, don't frown, breathe in my diaphram and now thanks to that post, smile slowly and in a different style than usual, which looks way better than my usual smile (Not as creepy.. Lol.)

So. Besides, and including those, what else could someone do?

Also, have any of you ever incorporated these into your lives, and noticed improved results?

Also... Has anyone ever witnessed a girls eyes dilate when they see you? Because I haven't. And I have no clue how you'd get into a setting where the dilation couldnt be affected by the lighting.

 

[War Against Betaism]

I could give you a bucketlist full of alpha male body language traits, but wouldn't it be easier if you were that alpha male that automatically had the body language of one? Sooner or later if you're consciously implementing these things, you're going to slip and lose your composure. If you have the mindset that you're the sh1t, you'll notice that having alpha male body language will come automatically.

 

[slaog]

Thats an interesting one about the smile. Maybe its a display of power ie I'm not going to smile for just anything.

 

[zekko]

So has anyone tried to verify this "slow smile" thing. Are there any links to any Youtube videos that demonstrate a celebrity doing the slow smile thing? Because I'm not sure I buy that celebrities smile slower than normal people just yet. I'm open minded though, so if someone can demonstrate it, I'd like to see it.

 

[War Against Betaism]

So has anyone tried to verify this "slow smile" thing. Are there any links to any Youtube videos that demonstrate a celebrity doing the slow smile thing? Because I'm not sure I buy that celebrities smile slower than normal people just yet. I'm open minded though, so if someone can demonstrate it, I'd like to see it.

I've been doing it for years, I guess I can't personally say how successful it has been to me but you see it all the time in movies, specifically James Bond ones. Everything he does is smooth and slow and you feel that sense of domination with him.

 

[cola]

I could give you a bucketlist full of alpha male body language traits, but wouldn't it be easier if you were that alpha male that automatically had the body language of one? Sooner or later if you're consciously implementing these things, you're going to slip and lose your composure. If you have the mindset that you're the sh1t, you'll notice that having alpha male body language will come automatically.

True.
But studies also show that by displaying certain body language cues it can affect your mood and perception of yourself.

(i.e). .When you walk tall and confidently, even if at the time your not feeling so if you force yourself to walk in such a matter, eventually you will begin to feel as such.

2(i.e). . When your sad or depressed smiling can release the chemical seratonin <--(that may not be the correct spelling of that chemical) in your brain and make you feel happy. So there are benefits to learning and practicing positive body language indeed.

To answer the O.Ps question, I have a whole book on the topic..
some good ones are..

Taking up space..
Walking and standing tall and erect..
Exposing your crotch..
When you shake someones hand never look away first..

There are so many sub conscious cues that the body sends that it would take me several life times to elaborate on all of them..
Take this into consideration..
The oxford dictionary lists 171,476 words in the english language that are in use and 47,156 obsolete words and verbal communication is only 7% of human communication.. So since body language compiles 93% of the communication you could certainly imagine just how many body language cues there really are...

But.. With that being said I think if you
A. Take up space
B. Walk tall and erect
C. Maintain eye contact
D. Move slowly and confidently as if the earth is a kingdom and your the king

You'll be fine..

 

[War Against Betaism]

True.
But studies also show that by displaying certain body language cues it can affect your mood and perception of yourself.

(i.e). .When you walk tall and confidently, even if at the time your not feeling so if you force yourself to walk in such a matter, eventually you will begin to feel as such.

2(i.e). . When your sad or depressed smiling can release the chemical seratonin <--(that may not be the correct spelling of that chemical) in your brain and make you feel happy. So there are benefits to learning and practicing positive body language indeed.

My point was that it would be easier to be that alpha male so that you'll automatically employ all of the body language traits instead of memorizing and implementing all of these different traits.

 

[02hero]

A quick tip, don't forget to tuck. It stops slouching and promotes good posture. Works on the golf course.

Also take off your shoes whenever possible (indoors mostly) and don't sit on items in your back pockets.

 

[slaog]

My point was that it would be easier to be that alpha male so that you'll automatically employ all of the body language traits instead of memorizing and implementing all of these different traits.

You can also fake it till you make it as they say. Walk around with positive body language and it'll be easier to become an alpha male.


Theres not much to learn either. Learn the basics first and make them become a habit.

 

[moneyisking]

way i see it is that you must be able to do it naturally. but to my experience, i guess thats not always the case b/c i consciously practiced taking up space, spreading my legs and hands on my head when i am sitting down, turning my head very slow or even ignore when someone calls my name, squinting eyes, leaning over while talking, and all that stuff, but now i realize that i do them subconsciously. have them in your mind, don't memorize them and repeat yourself all the time, just have them in your head and remember to do them and you will get them down easily