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zekko

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This is a bit of a rant really, but here goes:

Seriously, I am about sick of reading or hearing people tell me how I should stand. Somewhere along the line someone decided nobody should stand with their arms crossed or their hands in their pockets, because this is supposedly a "closed" position. This has reached pretty much mainstream society, I think most people are now aware of it.

Now, there is no doubt that the whole topic of body language is very valuable and I've used quite a bit of it myself. But I'm sick of being told what to do. Sometimes I find it very relaxing to stand with my arms crossed. And today I was in a bit of a mood and found myself standing with my hands in my pockets just because I knew I wasn't supposed to do it.
How's that for alpha?
 

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It's not so much that somene decided it should be that way, but just of the impression you give off when you do certain things

standing with arms crossed gives off a kind of "don't talk to me" look. also, it can give off a relaxed look, depending on the situation.

It's just like when you don't smile every so often. you could be happy, but if you go around stone faced all day then people will get the impression of "don't talk to him" It's not very inviting


needless to say, I stand with my arms crossed all the time as well, because i just find it more comfortable than having my arms hanging around doing nothing

I stand pretty much however i want. but i am aware of how it can make you look to others
 

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You do what you feel is comfortable to you.

What you communicate to others is also up to you.

It's you against the world, or become part of the world.

Or... make the world look to you.
 
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