"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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zekko

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This is a bit of a rant really, but here goes:

Seriously, I am about sick of reading or hearing people tell me how I should stand. Somewhere along the line someone decided nobody should stand with their arms crossed or their hands in their pockets, because this is supposedly a "closed" position. This has reached pretty much mainstream society, I think most people are now aware of it.

Now, there is no doubt that the whole topic of body language is very valuable and I've used quite a bit of it myself. But I'm sick of being told what to do. Sometimes I find it very relaxing to stand with my arms crossed. And today I was in a bit of a mood and found myself standing with my hands in my pockets just because I knew I wasn't supposed to do it.
How's that for alpha?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ganondorf

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It's not so much that somene decided it should be that way, but just of the impression you give off when you do certain things

standing with arms crossed gives off a kind of "don't talk to me" look. also, it can give off a relaxed look, depending on the situation.

It's just like when you don't smile every so often. you could be happy, but if you go around stone faced all day then people will get the impression of "don't talk to him" It's not very inviting


needless to say, I stand with my arms crossed all the time as well, because i just find it more comfortable than having my arms hanging around doing nothing

I stand pretty much however i want. but i am aware of how it can make you look to others
 

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You do what you feel is comfortable to you.

What you communicate to others is also up to you.

It's you against the world, or become part of the world.

Or... make the world look to you.
 
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