"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Boasting about experience?

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I really don't want to tell anyone that i got hooked up last nite, because sammo and others have said that if i keep it quiet, it will give me much greater motivation.

I don't think it's possible not to speak about it tho, because people WILL ask me. Should i just lie and say i didn't do anything last nite? For some reason, lying about something that is true and that i want others to know is really fvcking hard to do!

Perhaps its that i don't think my opinion matters, it's rather what others think about me. -Yeh i know i've heard all the stuff about not caring what others think about me etc, but it's really difficult.

Could it be that my identity is based on what others think?

So how could i turn this around and get an identity based on what i think?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You know what dude... if you do it enough, you won't need to boast about it... it becomes kinda passe'. Thru time and experience, you become more of a... oh I dunno? ... a scholar. ;) ...and you then share your experiences to others who seek it. :)
 
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Dont bpast just keep it low key
 
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Agreed low key - unless it's your close friends who saw you with the girls.

I talk about it to my close circle of friends - perhaps 4 guys in all.

Just out of interest:


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Perhaps its that i don't think my opinion matters, it's rather what others think about me. -Yeh i know i've heard all the stuff about not caring what others think about me etc, but it's really difficult.

Could it be that my identity is based on what others think?

So how could i turn this around and get an identity based on what i think?

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It's about attitude and self confidence. Old story.

You REACT to others instead of ACTING.

You want other sto look to you. But you don't have confidence because you care what they think of you.

Leaders and Alpha's must be set apart from the pack. They do this by leading - by putting themselves out there and not following the herd. You ACT and do things on your terms when you want them.

Right now your not doing that. Your being led by others opinions of you.

Cut that sh#t out.
 
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thx guys, i appreciate it

something i keep remembering now and again: do it 4 u, not 4 them

chars, gav
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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