You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Sounds like a problem with your settings. Mess around your privacy settings.Originally posted by No Escape
When i'm logged in for more than than about 10 minutes while typing something, i get logged out. Anyone else having this problem?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i had to type my name and pass in the login part to log in and i am using explorer....Originally posted by Wyldfire
pen, if your cookies don't work you probably wouldn't have been able to post. At least that's the case if the site requires cookies in order to log in.
Your "cookies" can be found in your browser preferences window under the "security" section. Of course, the exact location is dependent upon which browser you're using. While you're there you might want to adjust them so that you only store cookies from sites you navigate to. Then your cache isn't bogged down with banner and pop up cookies.
I use Safari (Mac), let me open IE and give you directions on how to fix it...I'll post it here in a couple of minutes.Originally posted by penkitten
i had to type my name and pass in the login part to log in and i am using explorer....
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Diablo...if you baked cookies for 30 minutes they'd look like charcoal briquettes.Originally posted by diablo
- Turn your oven to 375 degrees
- Grease your cookie sheet
- Place cookies about 2" apart
- Bake for ~30 minutes
- Remove and cool
Originally posted by Wyldfire
Okay, pen...here's how you fix your cookies.
Open up your browser preferences
Look for "Receiving Files"
Cookies are located in the "Receiving Files" sub category.
Adjust the setting to "never ask" if you don't want to have to log in each time you visit.
Close Explorer
Open Explorer again and log in here again. Once you do that you should be all set.
Argh...my explorer might be configured differently since I'm on a Mac. Can someone else explain to pen how to find the cookie preferences in IE on Windows?Originally posted by penkitten
i cant find receiving files anywhere
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.