Ok not sure if this was a good thing or a bad thing. But this girl i have seen once before was at the gym with me, she comes in and sits down next to me on the bikes, she never never never rides the bike and says hey i will keep you company. SO we talk and i say so after this we will go head out and see whats going on... She turned bright red put her head down and had this goofy smile on her face and says i dont drink on weeknights ??? I laugh and say whatever and she looks up and says well i can go out for one or 2.... I laughed and went on with my workout, on my way out i stop and she looks at me and says i really dont drink on weeknights i said look i didnt say anything about drinking tonight and shes says ohhh yeah i will head out then.... Now im confused was the whole blushing thing and smile a sign of interest... when before she sat on the bike she walked bye and ran her hand across my back... now im dripping sweat... Do you guys think she may have honestly had a hangup on the drinking part but is interested ?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Blushing
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HAHA well everything seemed good until she got wishwashy on the drinking part... She did just call and say her and her friend will meet me at 9 for drinks...in the scheme of things is it a bad thing when she brings a friend... is this going to be a test and how do u not feel awkward when its the 2 of them and just me ???
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
brucevangeorge
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believe it or not -- as long as the friend is NOT another dude, this is a pretty good thing. she wants the friend to be impressed -- but you will surely be evaluated, so make sure you deliver!
Well things went well.... She told me before the night started that she was really tired and she apologized before hand, however mid way thru the night her friend says Dude your the hottest guy in this bar... .And the the girl im interested in said joking around oh yeah by far yeah.... there are alot of people in this bar im afraid to leave you, someone may try to pick u up....We both walked back to her car and before i could even make any effort towards a kiss close shes like gime a hug and then she proceeded to squeeze the hell out of me... Its 2 days out now and still no kiss close by me... She did mention she wanted to go to another city with me to go to the clubs and spend the night.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ok im alittle frustrated, i went out with that chick last Thursday like i said. I see her on Monday and shes really flighty, hardly smiling or anything still talking with me alittle bit ... figure shes pissed because i didnt show up on Saturday like i said i would. So i leave and dont say a word to her. Today im in the gym and she walks by gives me a smile and says hey you, walks in the locker room, comes out and rubs my back again and says whats new, i say not much how was work today... she doesnt give me an answer... she walks back into the locker room.... She comes out again rubs my back again as shes leaving and says see you later....Its frustrating because i cannot tell if she is playing a game or if all interest is lost ?
She is clearly into you, but you are going to have to make your move soon, because if you don't you will lose her. It's one thing holding back because you are teasing and building anticipation, but fear and uncertainty are big turn offs to women and they can usually sense it!
She has given you enough signals and few guys get a second chance. This is one of those "now or never" situations. If can't find the right opportunity, then you must create it. Hell, just ask her if you can have a word with her in private, then when you're alone, slowly make your move and kiss her (it's worked for me in the past).
She has given you enough signals and few guys get a second chance. This is one of those "now or never" situations. If can't find the right opportunity, then you must create it. Hell, just ask her if you can have a word with her in private, then when you're alone, slowly make your move and kiss her (it's worked for me in the past).
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
From my experience, whenever a girl asks YOU out, for any reason, she is into you. That's a very obvious sign, and is a green light for you to try to get closer to her.
Go out with her in private (as opposed to you, her, and her friend(s) ) and use your dj skills to make her yours. Enjoy!
Go out with her in private (as opposed to you, her, and her friend(s) ) and use your dj skills to make her yours. Enjoy!
RarelyGetAHairCut
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Damn Heater your'e slow