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Bluechew and performance anxiety

TheNewStyle123

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Hello Gentlemen,

This is definitely an embarrassing post, but I appreciate everyone's help thus far with other issues. As I have mentioned in other threads, I was with my wife for 7 years and we have been separated for the past 6 months (divorce will be finalized this month!)

Anyways, I have been having fun going on dates, meeting new types of women, and I have begun to spin 2 plates (working on 2 more right now). I had a plate over last night who I have already had sex with twice on two different occasions. Sometimes I will have issues maintaining and erection once I put a condom on due to sensitivity, but last night I just couldn't get hard at all despite her attempts. She's a hot Brazilian chick so there is no issue with the attraction, and like I said, I have already had sex with her.

I'm not sure if last night's events could have also been caused by my energy level (went to gym only hours before seeing her and I've had rough/busy work week), performance anxiety, or a combination of the two. After 2 unsuccessful attempts she ended up giving me a bj (fantastic btw) and we went about our night.

Has anyone here ever used bluechew? Is it legit? I am wondering if this could help me with my performance anxiety with not only her, but other potential plates.

Thanks boys.
 

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Yes, I had a bluechew membership for tadalafil (generic Cialis).

It worked at first but after a while I wasn't feeling the effects anymore. I switch to Sildenafil (generic Viagra) and it's the same situation, it worked at first but after a while I didn't see any noticeable improvement.

I'm now taking Tadalafil in pill form 5mg/day and it's working out well for me. Not just in terms of erection quality but it also gives me a great pump in the gym.

There's only one problem: Tadalafil is expensive AF. Even the generic version is expensive. But that's the price we have to pay as men.

I started out with Bluechew because they were the cheapest that I could find online. The process is really easy and quick. They just ask you basic questions and a licensed doctor reviews your answers. If they approve you, you can choose between Tadalafil or Sildenafil.

The chewables do work. But for myself personally, I seem to respond better to pills rather than chewables. So for now, I've placed my Bluechew membership on hold.
 

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Hello Gentlemen,

This is definitely an embarrassing post, but I appreciate everyone's help thus far with other issues. As I have mentioned in other threads, I was with my wife for 7 years and we have been separated for the past 6 months (divorce will be finalized this month!)

Anyways, I have been having fun going on dates, meeting new types of women, and I have begun to spin 2 plates (working on 2 more right now). I had a plate over last night who I have already had sex with twice on two different occasions. Sometimes I will have issues maintaining and erection once I put a condom on due to sensitivity, but last night I just couldn't get hard at all despite her attempts. She's a hot Brazilian chick so there is no issue with the attraction, and like I said, I have already had sex with her.

I'm not sure if last night's events could have also been caused by my energy level (went to gym only hours before seeing her and I've had rough/busy work week), performance anxiety, or a combination of the two. After 2 unsuccessful attempts she ended up giving me a bj (fantastic btw) and we went about our night.

Has anyone here ever used bluechew? Is it legit? I am wondering if this could help me with my performance anxiety with not only her, but other potential plates.

Thanks boys.
This sounds like more performance anxiety than anything TBH. And it is not uncommon when you have been with the same woman for that long and are with new ones for the first time. It is especially tough going from being able to raw dog your wife for seven years to starting to have to use a condom. I doubt it was going to the gym that did it. My guess is it will disappear as you get more comfortable with your plates but if you're worried about it then taking a single viagra would probably eliminate any issue altogether.
 

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It's mental. Performance anxiety. You have to let go of the outcome, just be comfortable in your skin, no matter what happens. Enjoy the moment, rather than worry about it.
 

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I've been through all of this and have tried both Cialis and Viagra.

Main thing is you have to identify if it's a biological issue or a psychological one. The way you know if it's a biological one is if you no longer wake up with morning wood. In those situations, ED medications like Viagra or Cialis can help.

If it's psychological, even taking these may or may not work.

Other factors:
- Your age
- Your Testosterone levels - If in doubt, get it checked by your doctor and make sure he gives you a number result back so you can make - - - your own determination where you're at in the spectrum
- Do you workout?
- Do you eat healthy?
- I find the older you get, the more sensitive your erections get from outside interference like stress, lack of sleep, temperature, etc.

And let's face it, we're more sexually compatible with some gals than others. We can't just get hard or stay hard for every girl.
Case in point, one of my plates who has a better body isn't very sexual as my other plate so sex just lasts 10-15min with her. There have been times where I lose my erection. My other plate on the other hand, is very sexual and in return makes me more excited and we always have close to 2 hours of sex every time.

It could be that this girl just isn't doing it for you no matter what you want to believe.
 

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If you're getting hard from a BJ then viagra or an alternative will keep you hard

Just get inside her quickly and start thrusting when it's time
 

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If you need viagara you need to go see a cardiologist as there is a good chance you have atherosclerosis. Calcium buildup doesn't only effect arteries..
 

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I've been through all of this and have tried both Cialis and Viagra.

Main thing is you have to identify if it's a biological issue or a psychological one. The way you know if it's a biological one is if you no longer wake up with morning wood. In those situations, ED medications like Viagra or Cialis can help.

If it's psychological, even taking these may or may not work.

Other factors:
- Your age
- Your Testosterone levels - If in doubt, get it checked by your doctor and make sure he gives you a number result back so you can make - - - your own determination where you're at in the spectrum
- Do you workout?
- Do you eat healthy?
- I find the older you get, the more sensitive your erections get from outside interference like stress, lack of sleep, temperature, etc.

And let's face it, we're more sexually compatible with some gals than others. We can't just get hard or stay hard for every girl.
Case in point, one of my plates who has a better body isn't very sexual as my other plate so sex just lasts 10-15min with her. There have been times where I lose my erection. My other plate on the other hand, is very sexual and in return makes me more excited and we always have close to 2 hours of sex every time.

It could be that this girl just isn't doing it for you no matter what you want to believe.
I think it's definitely a psychological issue then. I still wake up every AM with morning wood, had no problem achieving an erection when she blew me, etc. But now that you mention it, it makes sense it could just be her too. She is kind of timid when it comes to trying new things or things I like and I find it much harder to "get into the moment" when it feels forced or like I am trying to sell the chick something. This other girl I had over last weekend was fantastic and really did everything I liked. I don't think it could be my T levels as I am only 27, workout 4 days/week, and eat very clean.

This was good advice. Thanks bud.
 

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If you're getting hard from a BJ then viagra or an alternative will keep you hard

Just get inside her quickly and start thrusting when it's time
Exactly! Yeah man I need to go that route. She's so stoic when it comes to the point when I'm putting the condom on. I prefer doggystyle and she does not seem to be into that. I'll get the condom on and start to lose sensitivity and subsequently the erection because we are bullsh!tting around with positions I don't prefer. It's a little tough too because of the language barrier (Brazilian as mentioned above).
 

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It's mental. Performance anxiety. You have to let go of the outcome, just be comfortable in your skin, no matter what happens. Enjoy the moment, rather than worry about it.
Great point man thank you. I'm finding too as I re-enter the dating scene some girls just get me more turned on than others. This girl is more reserved, quite, routine, etc., where as the other plate I'm spinning is much kinkier.
 

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Great point man thank you. I'm finding too as I re-enter the dating scene some girls just get me more turned on than others. This girl is more reserved, quite, routine, etc., where as the other plate I'm spinning is much kinkier.
Here's a challenge for you. Some girls are super adept at making you feel comfortable - and most often these girls try to 'lead' things and they eventually end up breaking guy's hearts and sending them to places like SoSuave. That is what happened to me anyway. Women want us to lead, we all have to learn that the hard way. Your issue here is part of that. You have to be willing to take the lead and make HER feel comfortable enough to do whatever it is you're wanting to do. That's how you bring out femininity.

Back in the old days sometimes I'd have performance anxiety with girls maybe I wasn't into 100% or whatever, and started thinking that I had ED or something like that. That girl above taught me real quick that my problem wasn't physical. It's all about the confidence and comfortability. I could have banged many more women had I not been 'thinking too much' and just relaxed and detached from the outcome. Be comfortable in awkwardness.
 

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Back in the old days sometimes I'd have performance anxiety with girls maybe I wasn't into 100% or whatever, and started thinking that I had ED or something like that. That girl above taught me real quick that my problem wasn't physical. It's all about the confidence and comfortability. I could have banged many more women had I not been 'thinking too much' and just relaxed and detached from the outcome. Be comfortable in awkwardness.
Quote of the day right there brother! Thank you for the advice. I definitely get into my head and expect/desire certain outcomes, when the reality is focusing too much on the outcome takes me out of the moment - thus reducing the fun. I think I am just trying to get used to the fact too that this sh!t just happens. I shouldn't place to much pressure on the act of having sex and realize that sometimes it's just not going to happen and any reasonable girl will understand. And if not, then I'll never see her again and find another plate hahaha.
 

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well wait til you get older, things only gets worse. I cant remember the last time i actually came in a woman.
 

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I think it's definitely a psychological issue then. I still wake up every AM with morning wood, had no problem achieving an erection when she blew me, etc. But now that you mention it, it makes sense it could just be her too. She is kind of timid when it comes to trying new things or things I like and I find it much harder to "get into the moment" when it feels forced or like I am trying to sell the chick something. This other girl I had over last weekend was fantastic and really did everything I liked. I don't think it could be my T levels as I am only 27, workout 4 days/week, and eat very clean.

This was good advice. Thanks bud.
T levels are almost never the cause of ED. Estrogen dominance is. The key ratio is estrogen to progesterone. If estrogen is higher than progesterone you will have estrogen dominance no matter what your T levels are. Many men are low in progesterone.

I would get a full endocrine panel done, both male and female hormones. Progesterone is mistakenly viewed as a female hormone but it plays a key role in men as well.
 
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