"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Blown off and no answer...next move?

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So I've been seeing this girl for a while, ****ed her a couple times including last week.

We were supposed to hang out tonight...I talked to her earlier in the day, and then the night rolled through and I texted her to ask her what time to get her and no answer...tried again 3 more times then texted her are u ****ing serious, called her but no answer. Maybe she is seeing someone else. This isn't the first time she's blown me off but she's always let me know beforehand. This is the first time she has never answered me.

She WILL end up texting me, because I'm dropping all attention and contact period. Now, I'm trying to figure out my next move when she ends up trying to talk to me. I'm trying to turn the tables back in my favor and have her begging to see me.

What option should I go with?
a. Don't answer ever again
b. Straight up tell her that "whatever other guy she is getting with can have her and phuck off" (she most likely isn't getting with someone else but it could spin her hamster wheel)
c. Act like nothing happened, indifferent and make her work for me
d. Call her out on blowing me off
e. Start being the world's biggest d*ck

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't try to contact her again. If she does get in contact with you, demote her to fvckbuddy status and don't spend another cent on her.

Don't take any excuses like "my phone ran out of battery", there are other phones.
 
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bagezmarnar said:
...tried again 3 more times then texted her are u ****ing serious, called her but no answer. Maybe she is seeing someone else.
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It has been scientifically proven that there is a negative correlation between texts sent and responses rate.

Don't ever do this again. If she hasn't lost attraction, she has now. The only next move is to never contact her again (even if she contacts you) to destroy the weak insecure beta within.
 
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F) Drop her ass due to massive disrespect.

Not cool. Play it very, very low and reduce your interest to less than what she's giving you.

Nothing more you can do, someone else must be grabbing her attention. Yes, something bad could of happened and she went AWOL for a day or so, but most likely, she riding another beef stick.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yep. I'd delete her number. If she comes back. F buddy terms only. If not. Move on. These chicks are doing the same chit on the regular.
 
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