"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Blowing off a new plate/potential LTR

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When I see her, I also plan on saying something the lines of:

I was being jackass by not responding/shutting you out when you just wanted to see me. I didn’t make you feel appreciated. I’m sorry.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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When I see her, I also plan on saying something the lines of:

I was being jackass by not responding/shutting you out when you just wanted to see me. I didn’t make you feel appreciated. I’m sorry.
No your not. Nope. There's no need. She's not mad at you. Just carry on as normal.

You now have a different perspective on the situation. No need to disclose that to her, just use the new info moving forward.

I'm fairly certain that, had she had known that your dog had to be put down, happy hour would have been off the table and she would have spent the entire evening with you.
 
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No your not. Nope. There's no need. She's not mad at you. Just carry on as normal.

You now have a different perspective on the situation. No need to disclose that to her, just use the new info moving forward.

I'm fairly certain that, had she had known that your dog had to be put down, happy hour would have been off the table and she would have spent the entire evening with you.
Alright. I won’t say that. Thanks, sazc. I’ll let you know how our evening goes.

In the logistics part of the texts, we agreed to have a ‘low key’ evening. I suggested some low key spot near her place and she countered that we’ll just figure it out when I come over. I’m thinking we may not even leave her place, so we’ll see.
 

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Alright. I won’t say that. Thanks, sazc. I’ll let you know how our evening goes.

In the logistics part of the texts, we agreed to have a ‘low key’ evening. I suggested some low key spot near her place and she countered that we’ll just figure it out when I come over. I’m thinking we may not even leave her place, so we’ll see.
The script just got flipped on you. You were in a position of power in the beginning, but not anymore. If the title is accurate, it means you have other plates, so it does absolutely nothing to you to drop one.

She was chasing you. Now you are chasing her.

You’re qualifying yourself to the woman you’re talking about in this thread. You’re apologizing to her too, now, when you don’t owe her an explanation for anything, and you haven’t actually done anything evil. You’re going to her place, when she should be going to yours. You’re setting up dates, whereas if this chick was really into you she’d be hounding you for attention and to spend time with you. You wouldn’t even have to really work for it. You didn’t have to work for it to begin with, because she was inviting you.

“We’ll just figure it out when you get here.” As a counter to your plan, which you accepted.

Who’s really leading this interaction @Kidd55?

Get out, Kidd. Get out now. You’re about to be cucked.
 
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No your not. Nope. There's no need. She's not mad at you. Just carry on as normal.

You now have a different perspective on the situation. No need to disclose that to her, just use the new info moving forward.

I'm fairly certain that, had she had known that your dog had to be put down, happy hour would have been off the table and she would have spent the entire evening with you.
Alright, so our night went well. I ended up
Going to her place around 730pm. She was beaming as soon as she saw me. She brought me into her bedroom immediately and we had sex after some brief small talk about our week’s. (We don’t do much texting).

We just hung out, watched a movie, she made me food, I slept over her place and we had sex again in the morning. I gave her this powerful orgasm. She let go raw too.

The Friday night situation came up. She said she was confused because things had been going well but then she didn’t hear me. She told her friends I was coming and then I didn’t show. I told her that I should have texted her that I wasn’t coming and it was my Intention to make her look bad. She was sympathetic because the dog situation and we both agreed that we need to be more clear with our communication. She said if I would have told her about the dog, she would have come hang with me.



Thoughts?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She was sympathetic because the dog situation and we both agreed that we need to be more clear with our communication.
good
She said if I would have told her about the dog, she would have come hang with me.
DUH

IMO I think the dog situation got to you more so than anything else
 

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The script just got flipped on you. You were in a position of power in the beginning, but not anymore. If the title is accurate, it means you have other plates, so it does absolutely nothing to you to drop one.

She was chasing you. Now you are chasing her.

You’re qualifying yourself to the woman you’re talking about in this thread. You’re apologizing to her too, now, when you don’t owe her an explanation for anything, and you haven’t actually done anything evil. You’re going to her place, when she should be going to yours. You’re setting up dates, whereas if this chick was really into you she’d be hounding you for attention and to spend time with you. You wouldn’t even have to really work for it. You didn’t have to work for it to begin with, because she was inviting you.

“We’ll just figure it out when you get here.” As a counter to your plan, which you accepted.

Who’s really leading this interaction @Kidd55?

Get out, Kidd. Get out now. You’re about to be cucked.
Haha

He'll be back here in a few months with another thread.

And then you can tell him 'I told you so'.
 

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The script just got flipped on you. You were in a position of power in the beginning, but not anymore. If the title is accurate, it means you have other plates, so it does absolutely nothing to you to drop one.

She was chasing you. Now you are chasing her.

You’re qualifying yourself to the woman you’re talking about in this thread. You’re apologizing to her too, now, when you don’t owe her an explanation for anything, and you haven’t actually done anything evil. You’re going to her place, when she should be going to yours. You’re setting up dates, whereas if this chick was really into you she’d be hounding you for attention and to spend time with you. You wouldn’t even have to really work for it. You didn’t have to work for it to begin with, because she was inviting you.

“We’ll just figure it out when you get here.” As a counter to your plan, which you accepted.

Who’s really leading this interaction @Kidd55?

Get out, Kidd. Get out now. You’re about to be cucked.
I didn't post every single detail of our situation on this thread, but to summarize:

We've been hooking up for 2+ months. I banged her on the 2nd date. She initiates 85% of the time. Last weekend, she flew outta town to see family. I told her to come by my place once she landed. She did and we fcked. Last week, she asked me to come meet up with her/her friends twice, once on Wednesday, once on Friday. I declined the Wednesday invite since I had other plans and just didn't text her back on Friday. She looked into the place I suggested and it was fully booked. Therefore, she just wanted to chill out, watch a movie, make me some food, and fck. I fcked her twice.

For most women, I get it, but this chick has given me 0 drama, 0 BS, 0 resistance to sex. The whole game changed since I didn't respond to one text and I gave her a brief explanation? I don't agree.
 
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