"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bloody boring

evolvingnerd

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well there;s this girl i met wo happens to be in 3 of my 5 classes, and we pretty much sit together all the time - she doesn't know anyone there, and on my DJ pick ups i met her

now i have no interest in her at all
she's boring as shyte, and hardly ever talks, yet always sits next to me when she sees me, no matter how much i shift around the lecture theatre

anyhoo, at the start it was kinda nice, and she was marginally talkative, but now.....O ....... M ..... G

now im pretty sure i'm not the problem, at least not entirely. but the thing is, i'm thinking it's as though we spend too much time together....the other chicks i talk to, always light up when they're around me, but these girls i only see maybe twice a week

what can i do? even though she's sweet and cute, i'm stuck with ehr for another like 6 weeks....what are some things i can do to liven things up?
i do'nt have too many friends in these classes we're in, and it seems as though on my outings with the ladies, i've been indirectly kicked out of the nerd clicks i used to be apart of

please help....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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shy type??
more dangerous :p
u will never know she will just tie u up to the bed and whip u and etc...... :p
HAHHAHAAH
 

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well has anyone got any useful advice?
i forgot to mention that even though she is a bit of a tool, she is pretty good social proof
i've definitley noticed an increase in visual attention from other girls

this argetnian chick is quite pretty....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Make a decision. And follow through like the man you are.

now THAT's advice :)
 

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What are YOU doing to get her out of her shell?

Work her like the DJ you are for goodness sake. It shouldn't be dull and boring around you. You make it fun - not her.

Now go do it.
 

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bvut how do i go abotu getting her out of her shell/

i've read it constantly how once u DJs break em out of her shell, she's like putty in ur hands, or something to that effect

but wtf does it mean?
how do you go about doing it?
details please

:confused:
 

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Your post is confusing.

Do you want to just get rid of her or do you want to liven her up?

Don't expet not to do any work if you want to liven her up.

What are you doing? How do you interact with her?

If you onlt see her in class don't expect her to be going crazy.

You'll need to work on her outside of class....

It's not like your going to flip a switch.

She's probably the kind of girl whoose going to play off of you. Your going ot have to leed and she will follow.
 

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The only way to make someone open up is attacking them with questions ( not that close-ended shait). they always give in. do not forget to compliment their ideas. try to be or seem sincere.:p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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any other ideas?
when i'm with her, and in class, we're pretty silent, just writing down notes and stuff - most ppl are anyways
but then even afterwards, it's usually the same mundane questions...whatcha got now...egh - getting sick of it

i wanna have a normal friendship with her
any other friendsi'm with, we;re always joking around and talking - just this stupid biatch is getting to me
 

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If you've tried joking around with her - then perhaps it's a case of her havinf zero personality.

Come on to her. Try and bag her. She'll leave you alone after that.
 

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i'm starting to think she's a fvcking loser
i've been sitting next to me good friends nowadays - afterall, it's all about MY amusement

and she just sits on her own

fvck her, i'll just live it through and avoid her without making it seem too obvious

cheers fellas
 
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